Can you believe we are already in the middle of March? My baby turns 1 this month!! It has gone way too fast. My plans for his birthday are not a lot really. He doesn’t have any baby friends yet, so no point in throwing a party. His daddy will be working late as its a Friday his birthday falls on. So I am thinking I will just go around my dad’s house and do a nice little celebration and dinner round there. I will get Timmy to help me make a cake, he loves decorating cakes, not so much eating them. I have the weirdest child, he will not lick the bowl or the spoon, the BEST part of making cakes! I have not organised any presents as yet. He does not need a whole lot, so I am thinking I’ll just get him a little play tunnel which I think he would love to play with Timmy. Besides that, ill get him some winter clothes which he is need of. So not a very exciting birthday, but will still be nice and special.
So if you follow me on my social media accounts, Facebook, twitter or Instagram you will know that I am currently studying a diploma in childcare. I started it last year after I had Elijah, and I fell far behind. Mainly due to my self doubt! It is by far my worst quality, I second guess everything I do and question every choice a thousand times. So I delayed doing exams out of fear I would fail. So far I have not got below 90% in a single exam, so I really should stop the self doubt and just get on with it as I am clearly capable of doing it! So I am now trying very hard to catch up. I need to be doing an exam once every week for the next 2 months in order to catch up and then if I continue along the same routine, I should finish my course by the end of the year, that is my goal. I still have my work placement to do and I am hoping I will be ready to do this next month.
Ok, so I have blogging goals which is to blog more regularly. As of late I have been really uninspired by my own blog, I need to update the theme so its more exciting, I have just added some more areas which will expand my blog a little more. I’ve included food and drinks, books, mummy time and an arts n crafts section. And obviously there is the main blog section too.
So Timmy and his daddy are heading to the UK in a few months for a couple of weeks to visit family. Just the thought brings me to tears, the idea of putting my 3 year old on a plane and sending him off half way around the world, its too much to bear! I have never left Timmy for more then 2 days, and he was in the same country! Its a HUGE deal!! not to mention his birthday will fall on his holiday, so I wont be with him! I will not be going because Elijah will need to be held the whole journey as he is too little to have his own seat yet, that idea is not one I think of as much fun! So, I’ve decided, while they are off trekking the world, I am going to take me and Elijah on a holiday of our own, just not sure where yet! I really want to go to Melbourne. I have been before and loved it, so would be nice to go again! Or I could go up north. It would be winter time, so ill do some research and decide where I need to go. I do know I do not want to be sitting around the house, sad and missing my biggest monkey which is exactly what I will be doing. So I must make a plan for me! keep myself busy as possible.
I can not believe it has been over a year now since we moved from the UK to Australia. We moved in October 2016. So much has happened in this past year, its been slightly crazy. It only seemed like yesterday my partner came home to tell me he quite his job and wanted to move to Australia.
So, where do we begin, well you can read all about my first 3 months in Australia here living in oz, 3 month update But since then, as soon as Carl’s bridging visa came through he got a job, I then stopped working to take care of Timmy again. Plus I was heavily pregnant and was ready to put the brakes on! We got ourselves a rental house which was basically empty when we first moved in with the odd bit of second hand furniture courtesy of my family. When we moved over here, we came with nothing. Literally a couple of suitcases and that was it. Our house honestly looked like a second hand furniture shop full of mix matched items, nothing went together and we did not even have a dining room table, no blinds or curtains on the windows. It took a little while before our house started coming together. But we were just so happy to be out of our family’s house as it was more then cramped with so many adults and a child under one roof! On our first night we were greeted with a lovely huge Hunstman spider running across the floor, me screaming and jumping on the sofa for carl to kill it. Welcome to Australia. Then only a couple of days later I had a redback spider crawl right next to my leg on the sofa. I was not impressed! I hate spiders with a passion, no matter if they are big or small, they need to go, there is no room in my life for them!
For a while I needed to drive Carl to work every day as we only had the one car which is lent to us from my family, but with the help of my lovely cousin and her hubby we were able to get a second car. Carl got his driving licence and he started to drive himself to and from work. This made life for me so much easier. We love our second car, it is truly a great car. Except for the first week or so, I thought there was something wrong, as when I was diving it, it would not change gear ( it is automatic!) I thought we had brought a lemon. Hmm, nope turns out it was my stupidness and I was driving it in the manual setting. How stupid can I be? I don’t think I will ever live it down. I will be hearing about that for the rest of my days if Carl has anything to do with it. So yes, Carl quickly got settled into his new job, I enrolled Timmy into swimming lessons, which did not last long because when he realised he would have to go under the water at the end of each lesson and that was that. The fight to get him to go every week was not worth it! I found a play group with lots of lovely ladies and even had a night out to dinner with them. I have not been in a while now as on that day Timmy is in school now and I have been very busy. But now Elijah is older, hopefully I can get back into going again! Timmy is in preschool which he loves! He goes to school 3x a week, I call these days my days off, even though I still have Elijah to look after. I gave birth to Elijah back in March, went through a few months of hard times with some postnatal depression. Honestly, I started getting better, then just a few weeks ago I felt waves of it coming back. I ran into a lady and she asked me how I was doing, I burst into tears which I was not expecting! but yes, I suspect it is still with me but i’m aware of it. I think I am going to start to revisit The Parental Stress Centre you can see my post about them here The Parental Stress Centre honestly, the programme I did with them was exactly what I needed. If there is anyone reading this that struggles day to day, it does not have to be PND but in general. You find being a parent hard, stressful, have anxiety or are even just struggling please look them up they offer different course options, and are seriously affordable. They did me wonders, and ill keep using them to keep me in check and get me back on track when I fall off.
I finished my childcare course from overseas which I started before I knew we were leaving the UK. I have since enrolled into a diploma of childcare via online here in Australia which I am enjoying, but really need to make a more regular pattern of studying! It took me a long time after having my kiddies to decide when I go back to work what I wanted to do. I have now decided for sure child care is what I want to do, so while I am a stay at home mum it is the perfect time for me to get my qualification!
Carl got approved for his temporary Australian Visa, then the company we went through fast tracked our application for a permanent visa, which was instantly approved. Normally you need to wait for 3 years I think before you can apply for the Permanent, but as we had extensive proof we had lived together, and the fact we have 2 children together helped in our favor!
We managed to get a couple of holidays in, we went last year to visit Granny in Grafton with my cousin. We went again this year after I had Elijah to visit her, but this time we turned it into a real family holiday and went to Queensland for 4 days and did the theme parks. Which you can read about here Our Family Trip to Queensland
We have also had a few weeks here and there where we have managed to go down the coast for a couple of days. We enjoy going down south, it is so beautiful. Every time we go down we manage to find something new to do or a new place to visit. Our most favorite place to go lately is Jarvis bay. It is so spectacular. It is well known for its white sand. Honestly breathtaking!
We had Carl’s parents come to visit us last for 3 weeks. That was super lovely. They got to see a fair bit and spend a lot of time with Timmy, which I know he loved so much as did they. It went so fast.
So, as you can see it has been a fairly busy 2017 for us! Things have now settled down and we are settling in properly. Christmas 2017 was a really good one. This is the first year we have had our own Christmas tree. The first year, we were on Sark, it was a borrowed tree. The second year we were in Australia visiting family, the third year we were in Bristol for Christmas, that was a tough time personally for me and Carl finding out we had a molar pregnancy and the operation right before Christmas. Miscarriages and Molar pregnancies But we did not bother doing a tree that year as we were going to be in Bristol and that Timmy was at that age where he would see lights and just try to pull them down! Then last year we were at my dads house after just moving to Australia. So this year, we are in our own home, we spent the morning opening presents in our own house right before we headed out to go to dads house for the day. I really enjoyed the champagne and orange juice for breakfast! However dad and Carl were both sick with this horrible bug that seems to be going around, I had it only a couple of weeks earlier.
So today is the first day of 2018, I am hoping this year will be just as good, just as busy and full of amazing adventures! Today I have started a Detox program which i will write about later, as after Elijah i have basically lived of Chocolate and I’m tired of putting on weight and feeling like crap. New year, new me! So happy New years to you all.
We were lucky enough to be able to go to QLD for a week for a family holiday! Carl got a week off work, and I desperately wanted to go visit my granny again, as she had not yet met Elijah. So we decided if we are going all the way to Grafton to visit granny, lets go the extra 3 hours and visit Surfers Paradise while we are there.
Now Grafton is north from where we live and its a good 10 hours drive. I know what you are thinking, 10 hours in a car with a 3 year old and a 4 month old are we mad?! Well, I can honestly say our kiddies were made to travel! They did amazing, although I was not worried about Timmy at all. He has done more travelling in his short 3 years life time then most have done and he has always done well, never complains and just takes it all in his stride! He has actually done this long Grafton journey 2x before. However I was not so sure how Elijah would cope as we have not yet traveled with him before and he does not like being kept in his car seat for long periods of time. He was amazing! He got a good 9 hours in before he decided enough was enough and had a good cry. Honestly, we got lucky with our boys and their ability to travel well.
We set out at 5am in the morning, so we could get through Sydney before peak hour traffic started. We got through, no worries at all we even had a couple of stops for breakfast and feeding baby. We even stopped at the Iconic Big Banana where Timmy had to eat a frozen banana dipped in chocolate and some much needed coffee for us Adults! We made it to Grafton at 4pm and checked into our accommodation. We normally stay in hotels, but this time around we thought we would give self serviced apartments a try. I can honestly say it was the best decision we made and in future when travelling with kids, I will always go this way. No more hotels for us! We had a bedroom for the kiddies, and a bedroom for us. Kitchen, bathrooms and our own space. Its nice to be able to relax after such a long journey in a separate room from the kids and with a nice glass of wine. If it wasn’t so cold, we would have made use of the balcony!
We visited Granny, it was so lovely to see her with her great grand-kids. I love we were able to travel and take the kids to see her. She has met Timmy twice before, but this was her first time meeting Elijah. So after a short but sweet visit with Granny, we went back to the apartment, bathed the kiddies put them to bed and we sat down with a takeaway Chinese and wine for dinner before crashing ourselves as we were up early again and heading further north to QLD! Once there, we checked into our apartment, this time with an Ocean view, a very large balcony and a spa bath! Talk about feeling spoiled! The Atrium apartments complex also had a roof top pool and a heated spa. Was such a beautiful place. Once we checked in we decided we wanted to extend our stay, we originally booked on for 2 nights, but we decided 3 nights would be better! we came all this way, lets make the most of it. It had been a while since we had a proper family holiday. So we unloaded the car, and headed straight out to Movie World.
I was so excited to take Timmy and see all the characters and just watch his little brain take in everything he was seeing. I love watching him experience the rides and everything all for the first time. I remember going there for the first time when I was younger, it was such a magical place for me, so to see Timmy experience that was incredible. Timmy absolutely loved the Dodgem cars with Daddy, but his favorite was the merry go round! After a very busy day, we headed to Woolies and stocked up on groceries for the next few days and headed back to the apartment where we relaxed and fell asleep exhausted.
The following day we woke and headed for Sea world. This place was absolutely Timmy’s favorite place. Carl loved it too! We watched the Dolphin show, Seals, polar bears, stingrays and Timmy really enjoyed the under water world.
There were sharks, fish…he found Nemo and Dory! Timmy loved all the rides, they were a lot more catered to his age. He loved the Flying Banana and the submarine. I even managed to get him on a small roller coaster, but there was no way he was going on that a second time! So that night back at the apartment, we all sat down and decided were should we go on our third day? We could go back to Movie World or Sea world or we could try some of the other parks. Timmy was sure he wanted to go back to Sea world. As we all loved it so much, a second day at sea world it was!! But as it was a Saturday, it was a lot busier then it had been the day before so we had to Que a lot for rides and wait a lot longer for everything. But even when it was time to leave Timmy did not want to go! He got to meet Dora and watch Dora’s show. He had such a great time!
Then on our last day, we woke went for a walk along the beach and found a lovely place to have some breakfast. Then we headed into Surfers Paradise, sat on the beach and let Timmy have a little play, had some lunch before going back to our apartment. Timmy had a swim in the heated spa which I joined them with Elijah. Was lovely and exactly what we all needed!
Then we headed back to Grafton to visit granny for the day on the way home. We stayed in another serviced apartment, this time a little closer to where Granny lives. We went to dinner and then the following day up and on the road by 5am again. We made it back home by 4pm. I honestly did not want to come home and back to normal life. I could have happily stayed another week at least! This trip was exactly what we needed! I can’t wait to do another holiday.
So here I am about to write a weekly post about my comings and goings during the week. I often read other people’s post about what they got up to throughout the week and I love reading them. So this inspired me to write my own. I hope to get this out weekly and would love to hear your thoughts and comments! here’s my first post!
So as it is Sunday now, I will start my week from Sunday. Basically, Sunday set the tone for the rest of my week anyway, so it really is the best place to start my week!
Sunday – I had a bright idea to take my 3 year old son and 3 month old baby to the movies to watch cars 3 on my own! In the school holidays! Now, I know what your thinking, I must be crazy. Yes, yes I am! Had I of had seen 3 hours into the future, I can tell you I would not have even attempted this! But, as I did I need to tell you my story!
So we get to the movies, I’m lining to to buy a ticket when a lady taps me on the shoulder to inform me my baby has just vomited all over my shoulder and down my back! GREAT! I get the tickets then line up for food, I get some pop corn, a packet of M&M’s and a lollipop for Timmy. It is all going smoothly, he is listening to my instructions and i’m feeling hopeful and proud i’m attempting this adventure. We sit down in the middle of an isle, I sort him out with food and a drink and he is sitting happily eating away. baby has been fed and is sleeping in my arms. It is busy, and we get blocked in either end by people. The movie starts, all is good for about 20 minutes before the M&M’s run out, he is out of his seat trying to grab the girls next to his food and drink, annoying the lady in front who kept giving me death stares. This went on for 45 minutes before I got up and left, followed by Timmy screaming at the top of his lungs, we were in the foyer of the movies and people everywhere when Timmy decided to sit on the floor arms and legs going full on screaming because we were leaving! It took me 20 minutes to get him in the car, lucky me had 2 men sitting in the car next to us watching the whole episode. I got home, fed baby decided to get fresh air we would go for a walk. Was really nice, came home and it was one thing after another again, screaming, constant telling me no, the back chatting on and on until I broke down in tears in front of my son and told him I did not want to be a mummy anymore and I was going to work as I cant deal with him! In the midst of this breakdown, up popped an ad on my FB news feed about the Parental Stress Center. I normally ignore these, but my gut instinct told me I needed outside help, and I clicked. I joined and have never looked back. I will do a post all about this very soon! But was absolutely the right decision to join. Carl got home to find me a crying mess and started picking up the peaces. We decided it was a good idea for me to take a break so we booked me a hotel down the south coast for a night on Wednesday where I could order room service, have a bath and just chill out. So looking forward to that, obviously I would still have Elijah as he is still being breast fed!
Monday – Timmy is in school and Carl is at work, after dropping both off, I got myself a coffee at Mac cafe, went home and decided I was going to chill out in bed all day, work on my blogs, do some more study, perhaps even get a bit of reading done myself! I made a cup of tea, chucked on a load of laundry then and set up in bed with Elijah. Not even 30 minutes later the phone rings, it is Timmy’s school, could I come collect him as he has a red cheek and they suspect it may be the viral infection slap cheek! FUCKING GREAT!! There goes my day, and nothing yet accomplished! Spent the afternoon at the doctors and was told it was not slap cheek, he may just be getting a cold and yes he did come down with a cold on Wednesday! JOY!
Tuesday – I took the opportunity to get out of the house, as the school holidays are on and there is no swimming lessons today a couple of friends suggested a meet up! Great idea, much needed. Let the kids play(or fight!) and the mums can chat over coffee. Just what I needed! Timmy loves going around our friend Annie’s house, lots of toys, plenty of room to run and play, plus she has swings and slides! It’s like going to a park and a friends house rolled into one 🙂 win win!
Wednesday – So Carl is off and its my day to head down the coast for a day/night away. I felt guilty as Timmy woke up not well, but Carl convinced me to still go. I cried for a good 40 minutes in the car, a mixture of feelings going on! Mum Guilt over everything basically. I’m really hard on myself, I tell myself I should be able to look after the kids, keep a clean house, have all meals freshly prepared and keep it all together! I understand this is not realistic, and I’m yet to meet a mum who can do all this. I am working on this daily through the Parental Stress Center. So I drive down to Gerringong and stay at the Mecure Hotel. I end up with an upgrade and love my room. I usually stay in Mecure Hotel’s where ever I go, I have always had such a great experience with them, this time was no different! So, I check in, then drive to the main part of Gerringong, go for lunch, do some shopping then head back to the hotel and basically chilled! Got some snacks, veged out, watched TV and just tried to switch off as much as possible.
I ordered room service and had a nice bubble bath. I had Elijah with me so I wasn’t totally of duty, but I didn’t have the constant…”Mummy, Mummy, Mummy!” which some days that’s enough to drive me crazy alone! So all in all a lovely night away, and I felt it was much earned and needed!
Thursday – Carl took Timmy to Sydney to the Aquarium and to meet up with a couple of his friends. So I woke up, had breakfast at the hotel and as Carl and Timmy were not home I had plenty of time to kill and not rush back home. I checked out of the hotel, went for a coffee, I found an amazing little cafe, the staff were incredibly nice and personable and the views were amazing!
I did a little more shopping, spent far too much money so now ive replaced Mummy guilt with Money guilt…great!!
After some lunch I headed back home and lucky me came home to a nice clean house thank you Carl!!
Friday – Timmy was in school, Carl at work. I headed into Campbelltown with my younger sister to take her to an appointment, and me to do some shopping. Once again, spending too much money. After, my sister shouted me lunch at a restaurant called Grilled…its in Macarthure Square, for all my local friends who are reading this, if you have not been there before, please do, its amazing. I had the Baa-Baa burger. Seriously yummy! Not too expensive either. Healthy options and healthy buns ect. Def worth it after a hard days shopping 🙂
Saturday – Went groceries shopping, had a coffee, went to the local markets which is great. Did washing, just an average day really!
Sunday – More washing ect, just a day at home. Chill out day. Nothing much to report. Was a difficult day with Timmy again, He made ALOT of mess and refused to clean it up. We butted heads for about 3 hours….it was stressful and awful! He was being really naughty saying some awful things such as “mummy cant do anything right!” and also “i want you dead, boom your killed!” was just awful. I honestly have not come across this behavior from him before and I was in shock and really upset! But when i told him what he said was not very nice and hurt mummy’s heart, he turned into the sweet caring boy i know and said ” I will go get you a heart and make it all better and make you happy again” followed by a big cuddle and kiss. How can you be upset after that?! As Carl tried to tell me, he is a parrot and repeats anything he will hear….I do understand this but it is still hard to hear and hard not to take personal! I’m working on this!
Ok, so this post is going out a little late, sorry! I started it Sunday, it is now Tuesday. Days just dissapear when you have children! before I know it I will be writing this weeks post! well I hope you all had a smoother week then me!
So we have been in oz for almost 3 months now. I decided it was time to give an update. relocating from the UK to oz has been a pretty big adjustment. least of all for me, but more so for Timmy and Carl.
So we moved back to oz early October, and have been living with family which was very nice of them to let us stay with them. There have been big adjustments on both sides with this new living arrangement. So my family live in an area that if you don’t have a car or don’t drive, your literally up shit creek without a paddle. Luckily, i have a licence and my family brought a third car before we moved out here, so this is my life line! Since moving out here I’ve managed to get some work through a temping agency doing some admin/reception work which I’m very grateful for, not only does it give us an income so we are not using our savings, it also gets me out of the house and is doing me a world of good. i go stir crazy if I’m stuck at home for too long.
I think Carl is finding it the biggest adjustment of all. Not only has he moved to the other side of the world far away from his family, friends and everything that is familiar to him, due to his visa process he hasn’t been able to work for the first 3 months while in oz. So he has had to be the stay at home dad, which it took a while for him to settle into, but i think he has found his rhythm now, but i know he can not wait to get back to work! its been extra hard for him, he has his learners licence, but no car and hasn’t been for lessons yet. so remember that creek i was telling you about, yep….hes up shit creek and no paddle. he stays home with Timmy most days which would drive anyone mad. especially when Timmy has a bad day and just wants to be a right little shit. Carl has had to adjust to living in a new house with my family….there are 7 adults and a toddler running around, its a busy household, little room for alone time or personal space. But he is doing good, and next month he is able o start work, so fingers crossed he finds something soon! it will do him the world of good.
Poor Timmy has had to also make adjustments, hes had me as the main person looking after him for 2 years, then had to get used to daddy being the main person, get used to a new house which comes with new people and new rules. Its a lot to ask of a child. But i think he is doing very well all things considered. Hes now had to sleep in our room, which there’s only room for a double bed and a blow up mattress on the floor. Its cramped to say the least but it is what it is and its only temporary. I’ve enrolled Timmy into preschool for next year for 2 days a week, which he will love. He desperately needs more children interaction.
Trying not to get under each others feet when you live with other people is almost impossible. If you have ever had to live with family or friends, you will most likely understand what I’m talking about. Every person has a different way of living, how they like things done and its almost impossible to slot into another’s routine. I know my family are being driven mad by us, 3 extra adults to feed, extra washing, a toddler running around, which comes with it’s own issues, constant mess, toys everywhere, smelly bins from nappy’s, waking up to Timmy watching Go Jetters, Hey Dugee, or baby jake on CeeBeeBies, the yelling and tantrums and things getting ‘misplaced’ or broken. Its stressful and hard for everyone involved with lives being cramped and adjustments being made by everyone.
So how will we manage when baby comes along? We don’t know, its literally impossible to fit a baby in the room with us, along with Timmy. We have really no option but to find Carl a job, find a place to rent before we have baby….only time will tell if this is going to be possible. As soon as Carl secures a job, we will be looking for somewhere to live. I think our family is ready to have us out now, and get back to their normal living routines, and i don’t blame them, taking us on was a big task and we greatly appreciate having a roof over our heads.
So like i said the car is our savior. when I’m not working, me Carl and Timmy love going out and exploring new places, parks, walks, picnics, play centers, shopping, visiting family. So that’s us 3 months in. A little limited in our options until Carl’s bridging visa kicks in next month. We are looking forward to the future and hopefully very soon being able to settle in on our own properly. We are going to have a very busy new years with finding work, finding a place to live and a new baby on the way. Lots of new adventures and challenges ahead of us, but we say, bring it on 2017, were ready!!!!