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20 weeks with baby number 3

Hey everyone, its been a while since a blog post, so I apologise. Some of you who follow me on Instagram would have known already by my insta videos ( which I am new at, and still trying to get the hang off!) that I am pregnant! I have been rather quiet with this one, more or less just really enjoying this pregnancy. Ive enjoyed having a little secret to myself for a while. But now I’m half way and about time I shared an update with you all!

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20 weeks with baby number 3

The first 3 months have been fairly easy, not much nausea just a lot of tiredness. I had an early gestational diabetes test, which I have not heard back from, so I’m assuming all good…..and considering how I felt with Elijah and how I feel this time, couldn’t be more different! This pregnancy is a lot more like when I was pregnant the first time with Timmy, it was easy and comfortable and I really enjoyed the experience. Elijah, well that was a whole other ball game. I hated every minute being pregnant, I hate saying that. But it was true. It was very hard to control anything to do with my body, what I ate and how I felt before or after i ate, my tiredness level was horrendous! however the minute I gave birth I felt I could have run a marathon, I literally felt amazing again. Goes to show what gestational diabetes can do to you!

I thought we would stop after baby number 2, but I realised the moment I gave birth to him that would be that last time. I was sad at the thought of never getting to go through pregnancy again, feel baby kicks and getting to go through labour again. Yes, labour sucks, but it is the most rewarding experience you will ever have in your life, well it was for me anyway! You go through hours of pain to get the most amazing gift at the end of it! There is literally no high like it when you see and hold your baby in your arms, its pure magic.

well I have really been enjoying my pregnancy a lot this time around. Really absorbing it all. I’m getting a lot bigger now and feeling baby move a fair bit more, however baby is a lot more quiet in the moving department then the other two were. I have had my scan to tell me the sex of my baby. If you want to know, send me a msg, ill tell you ūüôā I wont write it on here as other people may not want to know.

With every pregnancy there are new fears I face every time. With Timmy it was all new, I feared the unknown. And after the birth everything was different, it was overwhelming, the tiredness was a whole new level I never knew. but after 4 months it all settled down, we found our rhythm and it was good. With Elijah I was worried how Timmy would handle the new addititon, but on a whole he was good. He just decided to go through his threenanger stage after Elijah was born, which kinda sucked and made my life very stressful. He seems to be getting a bit better now. But after Elijah I hit Post Natal Depression, my stress was off the grid it was awful….speaking to doctors and councillors all they suggested was drugs, especially after the doctor told me I would need drugs to come of the original drugs they would give me….um, no thanks. I decided right there and then I had to sort my shit out, whether it was timing or just me, somehow I managed to get my shit together. It was not easy, but I am lucky I got through it, it took a good 5 months. So yes I am nervous that PND will begin again after baby number 3, but I am currently taking steps to try and get my head straight, try to be aware of when I’m feeling low, and try to take a different approach after baby is born. only time will tell if this helps or not. If not there is a course on PND I can do through the Parental Stress Centre, who I did a course through them after my last baby called “find the calm amongst the chaos” and I can not tell you how much that helped me. You can read about my story on that here The Parental Stress Centre¬†

Its now 20 weeks with baby number 3, and I had my first hormonal breakdown a few days ago. My fears going forward are obviously PND, and Elijah. He is very clingy and needs my attention a lot. He screams and cry’s constantly when I am around, for other people he seems fine, but when it is me, its not good enough he needs to be with me or on me or have my attention a lot of the time! I am hoping after he starts talking he will calm down on the screaming and crying. however, I am looking forward to having our last addition join the family. Timmy is very excited for the new addition, he has helped choose the name also. I am not worried about him, he is such a smart little cookie and yes he has days he is a right pain in the arse however, he is such a beautiful little boy, very intelligent and makes a really good big brother. He loves to help me out when he is in the mood. His latest helping is vacuuming the floor. I am not complaining.

So after my feeling a bit low the other day and loosing my temper one too many times at the boys, I decided I needed to try and get on top of this once again before it gets out of control. I went onto the Parental Stress Centre website and found a course which now suits me. I will blog about it later once I am finished it. It is called The Happy Mum Course. I Just started 3 days ago, it goes for 10 weeks. I will blog all about it. I honestly love this centre, it suits me perfectly, and from my experience speaking with a counsellor this course beats that hands down! 

I am lucky this time around, we have everything we need for the last addition. All the furniture, a lot of gender neutral clothing – but either way this baby is getting all the hand me downs! The only thing extra we need is to get a pram that fits both Elijah and the new baby. Baby Bunting, here we come! I loved shopping there for all the stuff we needed for Elijah, they were so helpful and the prices were so good! Were hoping that the car seat capsule fits into the car so we will not need to buy a new one of those either! But other then that we are pretty much set ready to go! I’m looking forward to this next stage, and knowing this is absolutely our last bubba. I am happy with this, and accept it. I am just really enjoying every single second of this pregnancy and want to take it all in. I did not really with Elijah, I wasn’t feeling right and then after with the PND was just horrible. The newborn stage went by in the blink of an eye. I barely recognise Elijah as a newborn, its a blurry first 5 months with him which makes me sad. So this time I really want to just try to take everything in, and I’m hoping by working with the Parental Stress Centre through their course this will help keep me on track.

Ok, so that is all so far from me! So far so good on my pregnancy. Be sure to check out my Insta & Facebook page for picture updates along the way!

Candice xx

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My 2 Day Fat Blaster Detox

So it is now a new year. I figured it was time to start getting myself back on track. After I had Elijah in march 2017, I have never had such strong cravings for chocolate in all my life. It was all I could live off to be honest, and basically all I did live off! My partner would come home from work we would sit down to watch one of our favorite series once the kiddies were in bed with our usual bag of lollies and blocks of chocolate. Needless to say 9 months after giving birth ive put on waaaaay too much weight. I have never been this heavy in my life. So much so, on new years I weighed myself and I was a shocking 63.3 kg. I am used to being between 50-55kg at the most! Also, even at 55kg that is heavy for me, i’m only just 5ft tall. So any weight I gain shows very easily. So I decided new year, new me! No excuses, I am the absolute queen of excuses.

So, to kick of my new years new me resolution I started my diet on a detox. This sort of happened by mistake, I had not originally intended on this but my dad had found a Lemon and Coconut detox syrup from Fat Blaster in his cupboard. Clearly not his, left over from someone else, he was clearing out and said, do you want this? So I read it, was not entirely sure how it works or if it even would. It did not mention any side effects that you would get with a normal detox, so I thought, why not. Lets give it a go and it is only for 2 days! Basically you mix this liquid with water, It tastes just like lemon syrup. You are supposed to basically drink this throughout the day with limited or no other meals. So here is how I got on with my Fat Blaster 2 day lemon & coconut detox.

Day 1:

Breakfast: Woke and mixed the syrup and followed the instructions, mix the syrup – 1/2 cup, with 1/2 cup water and drink slowly over 2-3 hours. Sounds easy, and it was. I did not feel very hungry through the morning. But was very tired, I was not sure if this was because I was up till Midnight waiting for new years fireworks on the Tv. Or if this was an unwanted side effect.

Lunch: I decided as I was feeling so tired I would make a Smoothie for lunch. I had got a Nutribullet for christmas and wanted to give it a try. So I made a smoothie made from a handfull of green spinach, handfull of kale,¬† 1/2 cup frozen mixed berries and water. I was hoping this would help give me the extra boost I needed. Then made the syrup again and continued to slowly drink through the afternoon. However, I was severely tired and ended up falling asleep just after lunch time. When I did wake after an hour we went out to my dads for Timmy to have a swim. Saying no to a paddle pop and a cold drink besides water was hard! But I managed ūüôā

Dinner: So we got home, I made Timmy’s dinner fish fingers and veg, so I decided I would cook some extra veg for myself, that’s what I had for dinner. A small bowl of broccoli, carrots and cauliflower. I also had some more of the lemon mixture but did not finish it, I was so tired I went to bed shortly after 7. I put the kids to bed and that was me done for the day. I hit the pillow and crashed!

Exercise Day 1: 10 minutes on the exercise bike. I found a thousand excuses to stop or not even get started! That 10 minutes with being so tired was hard though. Terrible really. So unfit.

Day 2:

Breakfast: I was woken up at 4.45am by the baby who refused to go back to sleep. I held out doing the syrup until 7am. By 9am I was hungry. But we had been for a hour long walk, so perhaps this is why i was a little more hungry. So when we got home at 9am I made myself a green smoothie in my Nutribullet. The following juice recipe I got from the nutribullet website.

Green smoothie/juice

  • 1 Cup Kale
  • 1/2 celery stalk
  • 2 slices of cucumber
  • 1/2 Apple
  • 1/2 inch ginger
  • 3 ice cubes
  • 1 cup coconut water

Lunch: After going out again with Timmy to the library, I came home absolutely starving, not having finished my lemon syrup from this morning. Its fair to say i’m struggling at this point. So I relented and made Parsley Omelette with a side green salad. It did the job. Back on the syrup through the afternoon.

Snacks: 1 green apple, 1/2 Orange

Dinner: Side salad with the parsley omelette. I was so hungry, it did not feel like waking up at 3am starving!

Exercise Day 2: Walked with the kiddies to the shops, took roughly an hour round trip. Then after lunch I jumped on the exercise bike and managed to get 40 minutes done. could have gone more, however I wanted a little nap on the sofa while the baby slept!

Starting Weight: 63.3kg

Finishing weight: 61.8kg

Conclusion: I woke up on day 3 and was a lot less bloated then when I started, and I did feel a little less sluggish. I was not able to go through the 2 days without eating. And I felt awfully tired especially day 1. I am glad this was only a 2 day detox, as I don’t think I could have lasted much longer! I just love my food too much. Plus when you have 2 kiddies too look after, being that tired its just not a good thing really!

So since the detox, I have been eating fairly well. I drink my smoothies for breakfast, which I am really enjoying. Plus I was given a Nutribullet for Christmas, and these things are amazing! Then I eat fruit for a snack, for lunch ive been having either spinach, kale and parsley omelettes or scrambled eggs, or a salad instead. Then for dinner either soup, a salad or smoothie. I have been doing a little exercise on the exercise bike, but nothing much, I weighed myself today and am 61kg, it is slowly going down. So ive been eating well now for 2 weeks. I have allowed myself a day or 2 where I let myself have a naughty snack, or i’m more relaxed with my eating. I just take every day as it comes. I know if I up my exercise this will make my loss even more, we will see. I don’t want to go too hard too soon as this is when I get defeated and give up….slow and steady wins the race right? I will get motivated to hit the gym again, but i’m just not that motivated yet! Ill keep you updated on my progress including my wins and fails as i’m sure there will be plenty!

Candice x

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My Past Week

What a fairly busy week I have had! Here is how our week turned out.

Monday: It was Timmy’s first day back at school. I can tell you we were both ready for him to go back to school. The past week we had been counting down to when the day was finally here! He was super excited to see his teachers and his friends. So, as soon as I had dropped him off I went to the shops, Big W, to get some photos printed off. It is my latest project. I love photo albums, I have way too many pictures on my computer. So every week or every fortnight i’m going to print a bunch off and put them into albums, then delete the pictures off my computer.¬† Then when I got home after doing a load of washing, feeding and putting Elijah down or a nap, I went to visit my friend Leilana. It has been a while since we caught up, so that was nice! Then home, pick up Timmy and let the night time routine madness begin!

Tuesday: The morning with Timmy was a nightmare. He was being so naughty, I had no idea what to do with him. It was pouring down with rain, so I just let him watch cartoons while I tried to get a couple of house jobs done, but he was in the mood where he needs me to watch the cartoons with him, I had to be next to him and giving him constant attention. So trying to get the washing up done with Timmy sitting at my legs yelling, “Mummy look”! every 2 seconds was proving very frustrating. Finally the rain stopped and Timmy suggested he go out and jump in muddy puddles. OK. Wellies on and out he went, of course I had to go out with him and watch. When he was finished he came back in the house and emptied all the water from his boots onto our floor. Great. I needed to get out of the house. It was going to be a long day otherwise. So I got us all ready and headed out to the local pools, where they had a load of jumping castles set up. The one time I was on the phone talking to my dad, Timmy decided to be brave and go up the tallest steepest slide possible. (we had a conversation that he was too small and this slide was for big children) well, he got up there fine, once up the top no way was he coming down! Up I went, and let me tell you I was not keep on going down this slide either. It was high and very steep! But we had no choice, so I put Timmy on my lap facing me, I closed my eyes and down we went. OMG it was worse then I even thought it was going to be! And I have half the skin removed from my elbow and knee as a reminder of the horrific ride. the things we do for our children. Thanks Timmy! We stayed for an hour and a half, then Timmy said he was hungry, so we left and went to woolies to get some bread rolls, ham, and fruit and we went round my dads and had lunch with him. Then I put Elijah down for a sleep. While he was sleeping at dad’s me and Timmy went back to jumping world for an hour where we meet up with another friend Annie and her son. Then back to pick up Elijah and home for dinners, baths and bed time!

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Timmy at jumping World

Wednesday: I was up before anyone else at 5.30am. Prepared Elijah’s Bottles, got all bags ready for the day, got Timmy’s clothes ready. He woke just before 6, gave him his toast and got him dressed while he watched his cartoons. Elijah woke, nappy changed, bottle given, dressed. Finally got myself dressed. Carl woke and took Timmy to school, then me and Carl went of into the city. I had been invited to a book launch which I was very excited about attending. It was all the way out at Taramara Park, near Bondi. It was going to take us 2 1/2 hours to get there from where we live. So, we were on a train at 7.15am. We managed to find were we needed to be right on time! Im glad I had Carl, cause I most likely would have got lost. we needed to catch 2 different trains and a bus Well, we got to the launch, and it was great. I had a great time. The location was beautiful and I was very lucky and happy to have been invited!Just a shame Timmy was in school that day as he would have loved it. They had a Pirate blowing up balloons, a fairy blowing bubbles, they had an active session doing races and that sort of thing, face painting and a reading of the book. It really was a great set up. I love a good picnic, and this was perfect! Afterwards we needed to get back into the city because we needed to start heading back in time to get Timmy from Pre- school. After we picked him up, we went round dads to say hi, then it was back home for the usual night time routine of dinners bath and bed.

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At the Taramara for the book launch of “Nothing Happens Outside”

 

Thursday: Carls 2nd day off. I got up with Timmy and Elijah, breakfasts done, put on a load of washing, Timmy watched his cartoons while I tried to tidy up my computer table. It was becoming a dumping ground for everything. Needless to say, not much study or blog writing has been getting done, there has been no room! Then Carl tidied up the front lawn. Then after he took Timmy out for a while, I put Elijah down for a sleep and decided to make the most of it, and had a sleep myself! I fell straight asleep, even though I went to bed early the night before, was still so tired.

Friday: Timmy is in school, I did a shop lots of washing and not alot else actually. I decided to just have a chill day. I just potted around the house and spending time with Elijah. Visited dad in the afternoon after picking up Timmy from school.

Saturday & Sunday: We did not really do much all weekend. I did some study, we went grocerie shopping, did some sorting and cleaning in the house. Oh, on Sunday I asked Timmy to tidy his room, he actually did it! Not complaining, no arguments. He said ok mummy, he came back 15 minutes later and said all done! I couldn’t believe it. He played on his trampoline a lot over the weekend. I have put his basketball hoop on the inside of his net, he loves it! Ive started sorting through the kids clothes figuring out what is too small, what needs to be thrown out and sorting through all the winter clothes, what will still fit Timmy, or what may now fit Elijah. I’m the worst at sorting clothes, I struggle to throw things out!! I did some more study and completed another unit. Happy with that. Trying to play catch up from my lazy year last year. I fell very behind. But another 3 units to go and I will have caught up to where I need to be.

Oh Elijah is now cruising around furniture and waving. He also loves shaking his head when you say no, no, no! very cute. He is still a major thumb sucker. Timmy is doing very well in school, this year his teacher is giving him extra responsibilities, which he is loving. He is also coming along so well in his writing and recognizes most of his numbers now. I love when he draws, they are actually starting to resemble actual people and things now! He loves school and has a lot of friends!

So that about wraps up our week!

Candice x

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2017 – Our first year in Australia

I can not believe it has been over a year now since we moved from the UK to Australia. We moved in October 2016. So much has happened in this past year, its been slightly crazy. It only seemed like yesterday my partner came home to tell me he quite his job and wanted to move to Australia.

So, where do we begin, well you can read all about my first 3 months in Australia here¬†living in oz, 3 month update¬†But since then, as soon as Carl’s bridging visa came through he got a job, I then stopped working to take care of Timmy again. Plus I was heavily pregnant and was ready to put the brakes on! We got ourselves a rental house which was basically empty when we first moved in with the odd bit of second hand furniture courtesy of my family. When we moved over here, we came with nothing. Literally a couple of suitcases and that was it. Our house honestly looked like a second hand furniture shop full of mix matched items, nothing went together and we did not even have a dining room table, no blinds or curtains on the windows. It took a little while before our house started coming together. But we were just so happy to be out of our family’s house as it was more then cramped with so many adults and a child under one roof! On our first night we were greeted with a lovely huge Hunstman spider running across the floor, me screaming and jumping on the sofa for carl to kill it. Welcome to Australia. Then only a couple of days later I had a redback spider crawl right next to my leg on the sofa. I was not impressed! I hate spiders with a passion, no matter if they are big or small, they need to go, there is no room in my life for them!

For a while I needed to drive Carl to work every day as we only had the one car which is lent to us from my family, but with the help of my lovely cousin and her hubby we were able to get a second car. Carl got his driving licence and he started to drive himself to and from work. This made life for me so much easier. We love our second car, it is truly a great car. Except for the first week or so, I thought there was something wrong, as when I was diving it, it would not change gear ( it is automatic!) I thought we had brought a lemon. Hmm, nope turns out it was my stupidness and I was driving it in the manual setting. How stupid can I be? I don’t think I will ever live it down. I will be hearing about that for the rest of my days if Carl has anything to do with it. So yes, Carl quickly got settled into his new job, I enrolled Timmy into swimming lessons, which did not last long because when he realised he would have to go under the water at the end of each lesson and that was that. The fight to get him to go every week was not worth it! I found a play group with lots of lovely ladies and even had a night out to dinner with them. I have not been in a while now as on that day Timmy is in school now and I have been very busy. But now Elijah is older, hopefully I can get back into going again! Timmy is in preschool which he loves! He goes to school 3x a week, I call these days my days off, even though I still have Elijah to look after. I gave birth to Elijah back in March, went through a few months of hard times with some postnatal depression. Honestly, I started getting better, then just a few weeks ago I felt waves of it coming back. I ran into a lady and she asked me how I was doing, I burst into tears which I was not expecting! but yes, I suspect it is still with me but i’m aware of it. I think I am going to start to revisit¬†¬†The Parental Stress Centre you can see my post about them here¬†The Parental Stress Centre¬†honestly, the programme I did with them was exactly what I needed. If there is anyone reading this that struggles day to day, it does not have to be PND but in general. You find being a parent hard, stressful, have anxiety or are even just struggling please look them up they offer different course options, and are seriously affordable. They did me wonders, and ill keep using them to keep me in check and get me back on track when I fall off.

I finished my childcare course from overseas which I started before I knew we were leaving the UK. I have since enrolled into a diploma of childcare via online here in Australia which I am enjoying, but really need to make a more regular pattern of studying! It took me a long time after having my kiddies to decide when I go back to work what I wanted to do. I have now decided for sure child care is what I want to do, so while I am a stay at home mum it is the perfect time for me to get my qualification!

Carl got approved for his temporary Australian Visa, then the company we went through fast tracked our application for a permanent visa, which was instantly approved. Normally you need to wait for 3 years I think before you can apply for the Permanent, but as we had extensive proof we had lived together, and the fact we have 2 children together helped in our favor!

We managed to get a couple of holidays in, we went last year to visit Granny in Grafton with my cousin. We went again this year after I had Elijah to visit her, but this time we turned it into a real family holiday and went to Queensland for 4 days and did the theme parks. Which you can read about here Our Family Trip to Queensland

We have also had a few weeks here and there where we have managed to go down the coast for a couple of days. We enjoy going down south, it is so beautiful. Every time we go down we manage to find something new to do or a new place to visit. Our most favorite place to go lately is Jarvis bay. It is so spectacular. It is well known for its white sand. Honestly breathtaking!

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This is Chinaman’s Beach Jarvis Bay

We had Carl’s parents come to visit us last for 3 weeks. That was super lovely. They got to see a fair bit and spend a lot of time with Timmy, which I know he loved so much as did they. It went so fast.

So, as you can see it has been a fairly busy 2017 for us! Things have now settled down and we are settling in properly. Christmas 2017 was  a really good one. This is the first year we have had our own Christmas tree. The first year, we were on Sark, it was a borrowed tree. The second year we were in Australia visiting family, the third year we were in Bristol for Christmas, that was a tough time personally for me and Carl finding out we had a molar pregnancy and the operation right before Christmas. Miscarriages and Molar pregnancies But we did not bother doing a tree that year as we were going to be in Bristol and that Timmy was at that age where he would see lights and just try to pull them down! Then last year we were at my dads house after just moving to Australia. So this year, we are in our own home, we spent the morning opening presents in our own house right before we headed out to go to dads house for the day. I really enjoyed the champagne and orange juice for breakfast! However dad and Carl were both sick with this horrible bug that seems to be going around, I had it only a couple of weeks earlier.

So today is the first day of 2018, I am hoping this year will be just as good, just as busy and full of amazing adventures! Today I have started a Detox program which i will write about later, as after Elijah i have basically lived of Chocolate and I’m tired of putting on weight and feeling like crap. New year, new me! So happy New years to you all.

LETS DO THIS!

Candice xx

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Timmy Time

Now my son is getting a bit older, I am really enjoying playing all sorts of games with him. He actually surprises me with how quickly he learns and what he does know how to do! His memory is insane.

One card game I love to play is UNO. I have loved this game since I was a kid. I found a pack of cards I had forgotten all about and Timmy showed an interest in wanting to play. I thought, oh, this will be fun we will end up just playing snap or memory or something. I was surprised to see when I explained the rules, he got it right away and could play. He is only 3 1/2. Now Daddy, Timmy & me all play together and it is truly a lot of fun.

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Playing UNO with my big man x

I find I constantly underestimate what my son can do. I say “He is only 3, he wont know how to do that!” or ” he is too young, or too little for that”. I am constantly surprised by how fast he learns and when I tell him he is too little or wont know how to play, he tells me “yes I will!” Most of the time, he is right! Is it just me that underestimated my 3 year old? Tell me other mums out there do the same? So this is now a current favorite game we like to play!

Baking is another favorite. Timmy loves making all sorts of things. Cupcakes, cookies, jelly. Mind you, he does not eat much of what he makes, he just enjoys making them. If cupcakes have Icing on them, he wont eat them. In the picture below, he took one bite then said, “mummy you have the rest” He does love to make and eat jelly though, that’s his favorite thing to do. That boy loves his jelly!!

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We love going to cafe’s together. Before I had Elijah we used to go to cafe’s at least once a week. It was one of our favorite past times. Now I mostly grab a coffee on the run or when the rare opportunity presents itself it is good to take Timmy out for a treat just me and him, like old times.

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This may sound odd to some mums, but I LOVE taking my son to soft plays!! He is not a child which run’s off and causes terror among the other children, he is quite happy doing his own thing, playing on his own and letting mum sit with a coffee in peace. Now Elijah is a little older, I am excited to take him to soft play soon also. There is nothing better then going there on a rainy day and letting the kiddies burn some energy while mummy just chills for a bit. It is a great place to meet up with other mummy friends, we catch up, chat, drink coffee, and the kids all play. It’s a win win really!!

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My son also loves playing twister, but I must admit, this is a game I am not totally fond of playing. He is not really good at this game yet, he knows his right and left and his colors but he is a little bit small to play properly just yet. will not be long though and he will be able to play a bit better.

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If Timmy could, he would spend every single day at parks. He loves them so much! He loves the swing best, he can never go high enough! Picnics in the park, now this he just loves! I take his ball and he rolls it down the hill and chases after it. I did take his scooter once, but I ended up with it when he decided he did not want to ride or push it. So I was left pushing the pram and carrying the scooter. We no longer take the scooter!

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Timmy loves to read. Every week we go to library time, they read, sing and do arts n crafts. Then after we go down stairs and pick out a few books to take home. He gets very excited at getting new books. Mind you, he has A LOT of books on his book shelve, but he still loves getting new ones. He will want to read the same one over and over again. He is now at the stage he asks what words mean, or he points to words and asks what it says. But he surprises me, because next time we read that book, he will point to the word he tell me what it says! Nothing wrong with his memory then!

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Reading “The Gruffalo” one of his favorites.

Timmy loves Trains. He got this Thomas Mini’s track for his 3rd birthday and some mini trains to go with it, he has used it so much, i’m surprised it is still standing!! If i ever need to keep him occupied, I pull this out he loves it! Trains are his favorite toys.

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Timmy is currently growing tomato plants, Grass heads and a sun flower!! He loves to doing gardening and watering the plants.

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Visiting family. Every time i pick Timmy up he wants to go to granddad’s house, Granted he only wants to go because he gets an ice lolly and a apple juice. But he does love to spend time around Granddads house.

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A growing bond with his little brother. When Timmy says he wants to give cuddles and kisses to his brother, or help put him to bed or wants a bath with him, it melts my heart. Whenever Timmy walks into the room Elijah’s face literally lights up with the biggest smile on is face. Watching these two together is such a sweet thing to witness, and I love the way they show affection towards each other. I hope they grow to be great friends and have a special bond. Nothing makes me happier then seeing these two monkeys together.

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So these are a few things that Timmy enjoys doing. He enjoys doing a lot, but I would be here all day with things Timmy enjoys. So I will leave it here for now.

Candice x

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My Past Week #2

 

So here’s to another week gone by, this is what I got up to last week!

Monday – Was a really nice day, did some washing in the morning, Timmy is in school, Carl is at work. My dad came by and we went out to lunch at a local pub. I had an AMAZING salad. I even treated myself to a little glass of wine. In the middle of the day!. why not? It was nice, me and dad got to catch up and chat away, we didn’t even realise we had been there for over 3 hours! It was close to 4pm by the time we left.

Tuesday – Timmy wanted a chill out day, so that’s what we did. Nothing exciting, just pottered around the house doing general house stuff. Timmy watched a bunch of TV and played games on my phone, this is now his new thing playing games on our phones. We went for our usual afternoon walk around the block. It only takes 20 minutes but it’s nice to get out of the house on day’s like this!

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On our daily afternoon walk

 

Wednesday – Carls day off. Was a busy one for me, I needed to go to the library and get some study done so I did that in the morning while Carl looked after the kiddies for a couple of hours. Came home and Timmy helped me wash the car, it wasn’t until the next day I realised what a bad job we had done… so will need doing again very soon! I rode my exercise bike, not for very long with Timmy around, but still managed to get some exercise done. Did another walk around the block with the kiddies while Carl went for his driving lesson. He booked his driving test for next week! Fingers crossed he passes, I can not wait for him to get his licence.

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Studying at the library.

 

Thursday – Carl had appointments in Wollongong to get done for his visa, so we went there for the day. Before his appointments we went for lunch by the water at Bombora Seafood Restaurant. As I wasn’t allowed to wait for him in the waiting room, I waited in a nearby caf√© and fed Timmy chocolates to keep him occupied¬†while I had a coffee.

 

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Lunch at Bombora in Wollongong

 

Friday – Timmy is in school,¬†It was time for Elijah to get his 4month immunisation needles, so I had him booked in, I had myself also booked in for an appointment and my sister needed to see a doctor also. So was a long morning spent at the doctors. I worked on my blog post, got a post sent out about the Parental Stress Centre. And spent a lot of time online doing research, and studies stuff. I am currently studying a diploma in Childcare. Picked up Timmy from school and went around my dad’s house for a quick visit. Elijah is grumpy and not happy since getting his immunisations earlier, So not the most exciting Friday!

Saturday – Dropped kiddies off round Grandma’s for an hour or so while¬†I went and got waxed. I had not had this done since before Elijah was born, so I was well over due!¬†I will NOT be going back to ‘ Perfection nail & beauty clinic’ in Tahmoor.¬†I have been there 2x before and they were OK, nothing special. However this time was different.¬†Besides no one else¬†being in their, I was made to wait 40 minutes before being shown a room, then made to wait another 10 minutes in the room! Then¬†the lady¬†waxed off half of my eyebrow. Seriously!.¬†I now need to cover up with an eye pencil. They tried to tell me it was like that before¬†I went in there! I think¬†I would realise if¬†I was missing half an eye brow.¬†Then went home and¬†Spent the rest of the day at home again, doing house work and playing with the kids. Timmy is getting really good these days at driving his truck around the backyard, he can now steer properly and goes really fast, little hoon!! It is super cute watching him.

Sunday – Its my 34th birthday! I woke up to Timmy opening my presents for me. I got some beautiful flowers from Carl and the kids and a couple of books, which I am looking forward to reading. I then went to lunch with the family at a local club. Was a nice day. Went back to my dad’s house where they did a cake and sang the worst rendition of “happy birthday” I have ever heard! Very funny! Then at night Carl came home at a decent time and we had pizza and a glass of bubbles. So a good finish to the day!

So That sums up my week. Did any of you get up to anything exciting?

XX Life In A Mum Shell XX

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The Parental Stress Centre

So those of you that follow me on my Social media accounts such as my Facebook Page will know that 2 weeks ago I had a Mummy Meltdown. Let me give you the back story so you will understand how I  got to that point.

I gave birth to Elijah back in March and since bringing him home I have been feeling very anxious, stressed, overwhelmed and feeling I am not coping on a day to day basis. Elijah is now 3 1/2 months old. Before I had Elijah I was a lot more in control, and I felt like I could handle Timmy most of the time. There were rare occasions where I would have a bad day, but these were far and few between! I guess the timing of Timmy turning 3 just after giving birth to Elijah hasn’t helped. He has turned into a little Threenanger. This is a serious thing, forget terrible two’s they were a breeze, but once they hit 3, WOW! So trying to cope with his outbursts and tantrums while managing a new born baby has not been easy to say the least. Every day I suffer from major mummy guilt over trying to give Timmy the attention he needs and trying to breast feed Elijah and change a thousand nappies a day. I forgot how much stuff comes out of such a little human being! Every day for the past 3 1/2 months I have been feeling guilt ridden, felt like I am not coping, feel like I should be able to do all the washing, keep a clean house, give enough attention to both children, cook dinner, and make them healthy and something every one would like. I would be lucky if I got through a load or two of washing, and that doesn’t include putting it away!¬†No one else was putting this pressure on me, but me! I feel like every day I should be an octopus with 8 arms. My expectations are way too high, on myself and on Timmy. He is 3. Yes, he is naughty, cheeky and testing. I feel I should be able to handle this, and honestly I have not been able to. Every night when I put him to bed, I promise tomorrow will be better and I will be a better mum who doesn’t loose her temper and who is more patient and understanding, but then the next day is just as it was the day before. The stress had just got¬†too much and I am fearful it is turning into depression, if it has not already. I feel like I have no control and it does not help when well meaning family tell me i’m not doing things right, or I should be doing more of this or that. I don’t think social media has helped much either, with people only posting the most amazing pictures and stories of clean houses, kids playing incredibly well, outings where kids behave, home cooked meals from scratch. That is why for me, posting as honestly as I can about my struggles and my reality is important. Whether it be on my blog, instagram, fb or twitter. You will always see pictures of a messy house, my imperfect arts and crafts or cooking attempts and basically the reality which is life. Of course there are days which do go wonderful, and I go to bed feeling like the best mum in the world, however of late these are less and less. which seems to be my problem

Enter the Parental Stress Centre. In the midst of my mummy meltdown, telling my 3 year old son I couldn’t take anymore, I didn’t want to be a mummy anymore and I was going to go to work instead, an ad popped up on my facebook feed. The weirdest thing is, I never looked them up, I was not seeking outside help, it just randomly popped up on my face book computer screen at what could only be described as the exact moment I needed it to. I am the biggest skeptic out there, and I never click on these facebook ADS, but curiosity got me and I was at my wits ends so I clicked on the AD, what did I have to loose?. It was the best decision I made! Reading about there programs, how they can help, what they offer….I thought perhaps this might just be what I need. So I registered! I signed up for their 28 day program, find my calm challenge. We are currently on day 11, and I can honestly say this is EXACTLY what I needed! I love the live Q&A once a week with Jackie Hall. She explains everything so well, clearly and everything makes sense and i’m always left wondering why I did not know this before, or how did I not see this or understand this earlier?

Every day they send you an email in the morning, which comes with an audio version also. I prefer to listen to the Audio version then reading, I find I absorb what is being said better and each day it will cover a new topic such as ‘Understanding your Toddler’. I love waking up to these, especially after a bad night with Elijah being up and attached all night and i wake up feeling tired and irritated before the day has even began. Then at the end of the lesson they give you home work, these are tasks they ask you to do, which you do not send in, there just extra to help in your understanding and to help put the lesson into practice. You can choose to do them or not, they are up to you. I do them when I can. The past few days I have not had a chance. Things have been a little hectic, so ill open the email and listen to the audio version if I’m busy and don’t have time to sit and read, ill put the audio on while washing up or cooking or breast feeding and listen to it that way! Honestly, everything they say makes so much sense, and the hardest part is getting myself to rethink and rearrange my old habits and stop myself conflicting against the reality of what is happening as apposed to my expectations of what should happen. It is so easy to get myself stressed and worked up. But then I just need to stop, think about what I have been told, how to handle it and try the best I can in the current situation. This is easier said then done, some days I can handle, others get the better of me, and I just give up! I am working on it.

They have a closed face book group which I LOVE because every single other person on there you can relate to! They are all strangers, and you can post your problems and they all post with advice or there personal story. It is such a relief and just feels really nice knowing your not the only one who struggles as a parent. Obviously you already know you are not the only person which struggles as a parent, however some days can feel isolating, even if you have close friends, family and your partner/husband/wife ect around you, you can still manage to feel very alone with your problems.

I have had friends and family message me offering me advice and reassuring me I am doing a great job and I am not alone in how I am feeling, they assure me “we have all been there”. I truly appreciate these messages of support. Carl has been great, booking me a night away so I could take some time off. Much needed. I think Carl puts up with a lot, most night he comes home after working all day¬†to a messy house, no dinner cooked and Timmy still awake as he refuses to go to bed for me! But when he walks through those doors, it is like a wave of relief, I have help, I have a team member who can step in so I can breathe. I feel happy, relieved and guilty all at the same time. I think I have let the stress and pressure every day get to me for too long and it is now weighing too heavy so this is why I decided to sign up to this program. Honestly, if there are any parents out there struggling and you feel you need help, you must look them up! They offer other programs besides the one I am doing. Its only day 11, and I have a long way to go, the program I am on is 28 days, but what I have learnt so far has been eye opening. I am really happy I chose to click on that AD when I did. I have a lot of self work to do, but I am looking forward to it and hopefully¬†I will improve my every day outlook on life! I will be sure to keep you updated on my progress and let you know my final thoughts at the end of the program.

If you feel you need extra help or are feeling stressed or struggling to cope, please look them up!or click this link to be directed straight to their website  parentalstress.com.au I highly recommend them!

XX Candice XX

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