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2017 – Our first year in Australia

I can not believe it has been over a year now since we moved from the UK to Australia. We moved in October 2016. So much has happened in this past year, its been slightly crazy. It only seemed like yesterday my partner came home to tell me he quite his job and wanted to move to Australia.

So, where do we begin, well you can read all about my first 3 months in Australia here living in oz, 3 month update But since then, as soon as Carl’s bridging visa came through he got a job, I then stopped working to take care of Timmy again. Plus I was heavily pregnant and was ready to put the brakes on! We got ourselves a rental house which was basically empty when we first moved in with the odd bit of second hand furniture courtesy of my family. When we moved over here, we came with nothing. Literally a couple of suitcases and that was it. Our house honestly looked like a second hand furniture shop full of mix matched items, nothing went together and we did not even have a dining room table, no blinds or curtains on the windows. It took a little while before our house started coming together. But we were just so happy to be out of our family’s house as it was more then cramped with so many adults and a child under one roof! On our first night we were greeted with a lovely huge Hunstman spider running across the floor, me screaming and jumping on the sofa for carl to kill it. Welcome to Australia. Then only a couple of days later I had a redback spider crawl right next to my leg on the sofa. I was not impressed! I hate spiders with a passion, no matter if they are big or small, they need to go, there is no room in my life for them!

For a while I needed to drive Carl to work every day as we only had the one car which is lent to us from my family, but with the help of my lovely cousin and her hubby we were able to get a second car. Carl got his driving licence and he started to drive himself to and from work. This made life for me so much easier. We love our second car, it is truly a great car. Except for the first week or so, I thought there was something wrong, as when I was diving it, it would not change gear ( it is automatic!) I thought we had brought a lemon. Hmm, nope turns out it was my stupidness and I was driving it in the manual setting. How stupid can I be? I don’t think I will ever live it down. I will be hearing about that for the rest of my days if Carl has anything to do with it. So yes, Carl quickly got settled into his new job, I enrolled Timmy into swimming lessons, which did not last long because when he realised he would have to go under the water at the end of each lesson and that was that. The fight to get him to go every week was not worth it! I found a play group with lots of lovely ladies and even had a night out to dinner with them. I have not been in a while now as on that day Timmy is in school now and I have been very busy. But now Elijah is older, hopefully I can get back into going again! Timmy is in preschool which he loves! He goes to school 3x a week, I call these days my days off, even though I still have Elijah to look after. I gave birth to Elijah back in March, went through a few months of hard times with some postnatal depression. Honestly, I started getting better, then just a few weeks ago I felt waves of it coming back. I ran into a lady and she asked me how I was doing, I burst into tears which I was not expecting! but yes, I suspect it is still with me but i’m aware of it. I think I am going to start to revisit  The Parental Stress Centre you can see my post about them here The Parental Stress Centre honestly, the programme I did with them was exactly what I needed. If there is anyone reading this that struggles day to day, it does not have to be PND but in general. You find being a parent hard, stressful, have anxiety or are even just struggling please look them up they offer different course options, and are seriously affordable. They did me wonders, and ill keep using them to keep me in check and get me back on track when I fall off.

I finished my childcare course from overseas which I started before I knew we were leaving the UK. I have since enrolled into a diploma of childcare via online here in Australia which I am enjoying, but really need to make a more regular pattern of studying! It took me a long time after having my kiddies to decide when I go back to work what I wanted to do. I have now decided for sure child care is what I want to do, so while I am a stay at home mum it is the perfect time for me to get my qualification!

Carl got approved for his temporary Australian Visa, then the company we went through fast tracked our application for a permanent visa, which was instantly approved. Normally you need to wait for 3 years I think before you can apply for the Permanent, but as we had extensive proof we had lived together, and the fact we have 2 children together helped in our favor!

We managed to get a couple of holidays in, we went last year to visit Granny in Grafton with my cousin. We went again this year after I had Elijah to visit her, but this time we turned it into a real family holiday and went to Queensland for 4 days and did the theme parks. Which you can read about here Our Family Trip to Queensland

We have also had a few weeks here and there where we have managed to go down the coast for a couple of days. We enjoy going down south, it is so beautiful. Every time we go down we manage to find something new to do or a new place to visit. Our most favorite place to go lately is Jarvis bay. It is so spectacular. It is well known for its white sand. Honestly breathtaking!

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This is Chinaman’s Beach Jarvis Bay

We had Carl’s parents come to visit us last for 3 weeks. That was super lovely. They got to see a fair bit and spend a lot of time with Timmy, which I know he loved so much as did they. It went so fast.

So, as you can see it has been a fairly busy 2017 for us! Things have now settled down and we are settling in properly. Christmas 2017 was  a really good one. This is the first year we have had our own Christmas tree. The first year, we were on Sark, it was a borrowed tree. The second year we were in Australia visiting family, the third year we were in Bristol for Christmas, that was a tough time personally for me and Carl finding out we had a molar pregnancy and the operation right before Christmas. Miscarriages and Molar pregnancies But we did not bother doing a tree that year as we were going to be in Bristol and that Timmy was at that age where he would see lights and just try to pull them down! Then last year we were at my dads house after just moving to Australia. So this year, we are in our own home, we spent the morning opening presents in our own house right before we headed out to go to dads house for the day. I really enjoyed the champagne and orange juice for breakfast! However dad and Carl were both sick with this horrible bug that seems to be going around, I had it only a couple of weeks earlier.

So today is the first day of 2018, I am hoping this year will be just as good, just as busy and full of amazing adventures! Today I have started a Detox program which i will write about later, as after Elijah i have basically lived of Chocolate and I’m tired of putting on weight and feeling like crap. New year, new me! So happy New years to you all.

LETS DO THIS!

Candice xx

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living in oz, 3 month update

So we have been in oz for almost 3 months now. I decided it was time to give an update. relocating from the UK to oz has been a pretty big adjustment. least of all for me, but more so for Timmy and Carl.

So we moved back to oz early October, and have been living with family which was very nice of them to let us stay with them. There have been big adjustments on both sides with this new living arrangement. So my family live in an area that if you don’t have a car or don’t drive, your literally up shit creek without a paddle. Luckily, i have a licence and my family brought a third car before we moved out here, so this is my life line! Since moving out here I’ve managed to get some work through a temping agency doing some admin/reception work which I’m very grateful for, not only does it give us an income so we are not using our savings, it also gets me out of the house and is doing me a world of good. i go stir crazy if I’m stuck at home for too long.

I think Carl is finding it the biggest adjustment of all. Not only has he moved to the other side of the world far away from his family, friends and everything that is familiar to him, due to his visa process he hasn’t been able to work for the first 3 months while in oz. So he has had to be the stay at home dad, which it took a while for him to settle into, but i think he has found his rhythm now, but i know he can not wait to get back to work! its been extra hard for him, he has his learners licence, but no car and hasn’t been for lessons yet. so remember that creek i was telling you about, yep….hes up shit creek and no paddle. he stays home with Timmy most days which would drive anyone mad. especially when Timmy has a bad day and just wants to be a right little shit. Carl has had to adjust to living in a new house with my family….there are 7 adults and a toddler running around, its a busy household, little room for alone time or personal space. But he is doing good, and next month he is able o start work, so fingers crossed he finds something soon! it will do him the world of good.

Poor Timmy has had to also make adjustments, hes had me as the main person looking after him for 2 years, then had to get used to daddy being the main person, get used to a new house which comes with new people and new rules. Its a lot to ask of a child. But i think he is doing very well all things considered. Hes now had to sleep in our room, which there’s only room for a double bed and a blow up mattress on the floor. Its cramped to say the least but it is what it is and its only temporary. I’ve enrolled Timmy into preschool for next year for 2 days a week, which he will love. He desperately needs more children interaction.

Trying not to get under each others feet when you live with other people is almost impossible. If you have ever had to live with family or friends, you will most likely understand what I’m talking about. Every person has a different way of living, how they like things done and its almost impossible to slot into another’s routine. I know my family are being driven mad by us, 3 extra adults to feed, extra washing, a toddler running around, which comes with it’s own issues, constant mess, toys everywhere, smelly bins from nappy’s, waking up to Timmy watching Go Jetters, Hey Dugee, or baby jake on CeeBeeBies, the yelling and tantrums and things getting ‘misplaced’ or broken. Its stressful and hard for everyone involved with lives being cramped and adjustments being made by everyone.

So how will we manage when baby comes along? We don’t know, its literally impossible to fit a baby in the room with us, along with Timmy. We have really no option but to find Carl a job, find a place to rent before we have baby….only time will tell if this is going to be possible. As soon as Carl secures a job, we will be looking for somewhere to live. I think our family is ready to have us out now, and get back to their normal living routines, and i don’t blame them, taking us on was a big task and we greatly appreciate having a roof over our heads.

So like i said the car is our savior. when I’m not working, me Carl and Timmy love going out and exploring new places, parks, walks, picnics, play centers, shopping, visiting family. So that’s us 3 months in. A little limited in our options until Carl’s bridging visa kicks in next month. We are looking forward to the future and hopefully very soon being able to settle in on our own properly. We are going to have a very busy new years with  finding work, finding a place to live and a new baby on the way. Lots of new adventures and challenges ahead of us, but we say, bring it on 2017, were ready!!!!

xx life in a mum shell xx