My Past week

So here I am about to write a weekly post about my comings and goings during the week. I often read other people’s post about what they got up to throughout the week and I love reading them. So this inspired me to write my own. I hope to get this out weekly and would love to hear your thoughts and comments! here’s my first post!

So as it is Sunday now, I will start my week from Sunday. Basically, Sunday set the tone for the rest of my week anyway, so it really is the best place to start my week!

Sunday – I had a bright idea to take my 3 year old son and 3 month old baby to the movies to watch cars 3 on my own! In  the school holidays! Now, I know what your thinking, I must be crazy. Yes, yes I am! Had I of had seen 3 hours into the future, I can tell you I would not have even attempted this! But, as I did I need to tell you my story!

A rare glimpse of him sitting in his chair! 

So we get to the movies, I’m lining to to buy a ticket when a lady taps me on the shoulder to inform me my baby has just vomited all over my shoulder and down my back! GREAT! I get the tickets then line up for food, I get some pop corn, a packet of M&M’s and a lollipop for Timmy. It is all going smoothly, he is listening to my instructions and i’m feeling hopeful and proud i’m attempting this adventure. We sit down in the middle of an isle, I sort him out with food and a drink and he is sitting happily eating away.  baby has been fed and is sleeping in my arms. It is busy, and we get blocked in either end by people. The movie starts, all is good for about 20 minutes before the M&M’s run out, he is out of his seat trying to grab the girls next to his food and drink, annoying the lady in front who kept giving me death stares. This went on for 45 minutes before I got up and left, followed by Timmy screaming at the top of his lungs, we were in the foyer of the movies and people everywhere when Timmy decided to sit on the floor arms and legs going full on screaming because we were leaving! It took me 20 minutes to get him in the car, lucky me had 2 men sitting in the car next to us watching the whole episode. I got home, fed baby decided to get fresh air we would go for a walk. Was really nice, came home and it was one thing after another again, screaming, constant telling me no, the back chatting on and on until I broke down in tears in front of my son and told him I did not want to be a mummy anymore and I was going to work as I cant deal with him! In the midst of this breakdown, up popped an ad on my FB news feed about the Parental Stress Center. I normally ignore these, but my gut instinct told me I needed outside help, and I clicked. I joined and have never looked back. I will do a post all about this very soon! But was absolutely the right decision to join. Carl got home to find me a crying mess and started picking up the peaces. We decided it was a good idea for me to take a break so we booked me a hotel down the south coast for a night on Wednesday where I could order room service, have a bath and just chill out. So looking forward to that, obviously I would still have Elijah as he is still being breast fed!

Monday – Timmy is in school and Carl is at work, after dropping both off, I got myself a coffee at Mac cafe, went home and decided I was going to chill out in bed all day, work on my blogs, do some more study, perhaps even get a bit of reading done myself! I made a cup of tea, chucked on a load of laundry then and set up in bed with Elijah. Not even 30 minutes later the phone rings, it is Timmy’s school, could I come collect him as he has a red cheek and they suspect it may be the viral infection slap cheek! FUCKING GREAT!! There goes my day, and nothing yet accomplished! Spent the afternoon at the doctors and was told it was not slap cheek, he may just be getting a cold and yes he did come down with a cold on Wednesday! JOY!

Tuesday – I took the opportunity to get out of the house, as the school holidays are on and there is no swimming lessons today a couple of friends suggested a meet up! Great idea, much needed. Let the kids play(or fight!) and the mums can chat over coffee. Just what I needed! Timmy loves going around our friend Annie’s house, lots of toys, plenty of room to run and play, plus she has swings and slides! It’s like going to a park and a friends house rolled into one 🙂 win win!

Wednesday – So Carl is off and its my day to head down the coast for a day/night away. I felt guilty as Timmy woke up not well, but Carl convinced me to still go. I cried for a good 40 minutes in the car, a mixture of feelings going on! Mum Guilt over everything basically. I’m really hard on myself, I tell myself I should be able to look after the kids, keep a clean house, have all meals freshly prepared and keep it all together! I understand this is not realistic, and I’m yet to meet a mum who can do all this. I am working on this daily through the Parental Stress Center. So I drive down to Gerringong and stay at the Mecure Hotel. I end up with an upgrade and love my room. I usually stay in Mecure Hotel’s where ever I go, I have always had such a great experience with them, this time was no different! So, I check in, then drive to the main part of Gerringong, go for lunch, do some shopping then head back to the hotel and basically chilled! Got some snacks, veged out, watched TV and just tried to switch off as much as possible.

Chilling in our hotel on the private balcony. Relaxing!

I ordered room service and had a nice bubble bath. I had Elijah with me so I wasn’t totally of duty, but I didn’t have the constant…”Mummy, Mummy, Mummy!” which some days that’s enough to drive me crazy alone! So all in all a lovely night away, and I felt it was much earned and needed!

Thursday – Carl took Timmy to Sydney to the Aquarium and to meet up with a couple of his friends. So I woke up, had breakfast at the hotel and as Carl and Timmy were not home I had plenty of time to kill and not rush back home. I checked out of the hotel, went for a coffee, I found an amazing little cafe, the staff were incredibly nice and personable and the views were amazing!

The view at the Sea Vista Cafe in Gerringong.

I did a little more shopping, spent far too much money so now ive replaced Mummy guilt with Money guilt…great!!

The book I came across in a Gerringong store by a local Author, very fitting for my current situation.

After some lunch I headed back home and lucky me came home to a nice clean house thank you Carl!!

Friday – Timmy was in school, Carl at work. I headed into Campbelltown with my younger sister to take her to an appointment, and me to do some shopping. Once again, spending too much money. After, my sister shouted me lunch at a restaurant called Grilled…its in Macarthure Square, for all my local friends who are reading this, if you have not been there before, please do, its amazing. I had the Baa-Baa burger. Seriously yummy! Not too expensive either. Healthy options and healthy buns ect. Def worth it after a hard days shopping 🙂

A Grilled Lamb Baa-Baa burger. Seriously yummy!

Saturday – Went groceries shopping,  had a coffee, went to the local markets which is great. Did washing, just an average day really!

Sunday – More washing ect, just a day at home. Chill out day. Nothing much to report. Was a difficult day with Timmy again, He made ALOT of mess and refused to clean it up. We butted heads for about 3 hours….it was stressful and awful! He was being really naughty saying some awful things such as “mummy cant do anything right!” and also “i want you dead, boom your killed!” was just awful. I honestly have not come across this behavior from him before and I was in shock and really upset! But when i told him what he said was not very nice and hurt mummy’s heart, he turned into the sweet caring boy i know and said ” I will go get you a heart and make it all better and make you happy again” followed by a big cuddle and kiss. How can you be upset after that?! As Carl tried to tell me, he is a parrot and repeats anything he will hear….I do understand this but it is still hard to hear and hard not to take personal! I’m working on this!

Ok, so this post is going out a little late, sorry! I started it Sunday, it is now Tuesday. Days just dissapear when you have children! before I know it I will be writing this weeks post! well I hope you all had a smoother week then me!

XX Life In A Mum Shell XX


Body Confidence And Being A Warrior Woman — Not Another Mummy Blog

I Think we can all relate. I give full credit to her for posting pictures and sharing her story with us all. As I am about to start my journey into health and fitness after kids, this has given me inspiration! Please share, or comment your thoughts! I love seeing posts like these.

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Books, books we love

The Gruffalo

My Son’s Favorite book at the moment is The Gruffalo. I must say I really enjoy reading this book. The first time I had ever heard of the Gruffalo was in 2014, after I had Timmy. I went to a soft play with My partners mother, and on the wall was painted a huge picture of this ugly cartoon character. I asked, “What is that?“. She looked at me shocked, how had I never heard of The Gruffalo? Well, I soon learnt very quickly what it is. I absolutely love it! That year I got to watch the cartoon as it was on Christmas day, which It reads just like the book. It is the cutest cartoon, and very very clever!

If you have never heard of The Gruffalo, you need to read the book and or watch the cartoon! The book is about a little mouse who walks through the deep dark woods, he comes across various animals who wish to eat him but he manages to get out of each situation by saying he is meeting a “Gruffalo”. He describes a bit of the Gruffalo, Such as  he has Terrible Claws and terrible teeth in his terrible jaws and then mentions what The Gruffalo’s favorite food is, such as when he comes across a snake, he says the Gruffalo’s favorite food is scrambled snake. The snake gets scared and scampers off. The mouse says, “Silly snake doesn’t he know there’s no such thing as a Gruffalo!” This continues until he comes across The Gruffalo, with all the exact same features as what he describes through the book. The Gruffalo wants to eat the mouse, but the mouse convinces him hes the scariest mouse in the woods. So they walk through the woods and come across all the creatures again, each one see’s the Gruffalo and scuttles off, the Gruffalo is convinced they are scared of the mouse, so the mouse says he is hungry and his favorite food is Gruffalo crumble, at which scares the Gruffalo and he scampers off leaving the mouse to enjoy a nut in peace. The book is very easy reading, and Timmy loves finishing my sentences while we are reading.

we love the The Gruffalos Child also!

We also have the follow up book “The Gruffalo’s Child” which is just as delightful and easy reading as The Gruffalo. There is a cartoon version of the book also which is another joy to watch.  This version tells of the Gruffalo’s child who should not go into the deep dark woods as if he does the big bad mouse will be after you. The child does not listen, is brave and ventures out into the woods. He comes across all the same lovely characters as in The Gruffalo. Each character says the mouse is close by eating Gruffalo cake ect… until finally he comes across the mouse who doesn’t seem scary at all and thinks he would like to eat him, until the mouse tells him he has a friend who he needs to meet and describes him in a scary way, then moves into the moonlight where a big silhouette shadow of the mouse comes across the snowy floor and scares the Gruffalo’s child back home. Seriously, how could you not love these books?

If you have read these books, what are your thoughts on them. Please share them with me and I would love to know what books are currently your and your child’s favorites!

xx Life In A Mum Shell xx


Self Love Is Not Selfish!

I am currently just realizing I need more me time and that I am not wonder woman who can do it all. I recently had a meltdown from exhaustion and stress and am now trying to get myself out of this hole and back to me. Being a mum is hard, but I love my kiddies so much and wouldn’t change being a mum for the world. I just need to now focus a bit more on me so when it all gets too hard I don’t let it get on top of me again. This post is incredible and it’s exactly where I am currently at.

Mum from the Heart

As Mums we so often hold the weight of the world on our shoulders. We put the needs of our family first. We become Mum, then wife and often feel like we loose ourselves along the way. We try to be the Perfect Mum, raising perfect kids and keeping our house perfect at the same time. All the while we loose site of the most important thing. US. We need to love ourselves, we need to make ourselves a priority too. There is nothing selfish about this act. Not only is self love important it is imperative to be the best version of ourselves. How can being the best version of ourselves be selfish? If we cannot love ourselves, cannot make our own needs a priority, if we give and give and never refuel, we lead ourselves into resentment, anxiety, depression and a everything in between.

It is not Selfish to Love yourself

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Q&A with Timmy

So I have seen A lot of these types of things on Facebook and other peoples blogs where they ask there children at random some questions and see what the answers are. I decided today I would do this with Timmy who will be 3 next week. I’m actually surprised by some of his answers.

This is what happend.

  1. What makes mummy happy – Me helping you
  2. What makes daddy happy – Me helping him
  3. What is your favorite color – Purple
  4. Whats your favorite food – Sausages
  5. Whats your favorite fruit – Oranges
  6. What do you like to watch on TV – The show me and you watched, Tinkerbell
  7. What games do you like to play – The game on your phone
  8. What is your favorite animal – Horse and a cow
  9. What makes mummy sad – Not helping her
  10. How old is mummy – 7
  11. How old are you – 7
  12. What is mummy’s favorite food – coke (laughs!)
  13. What is mummy good at – helping me tidy the house
  14. What is mummy’s job – helping me
  15. What do we do together – chill out
  16. What do you sleep with – bison
  17. What do you like to do outside – play with my play-dough, do some drawing and painting and stick stickers everywhere!
  18. What do you like to eat for lunch – sandwiches
  19. What do you like to eat at granddad and grandma’s house – icelollies
  20. What does daddy like to drink – beer
  21. What does mummy like to drink – coke 
  22. What is your favorite drink –  poppas

So this was a little bit of fun today. Have you tried this with your children? If so I would love to know what were some of the funniest, strangest or most surprising answers you got?

XX Life In A Mum Shell XX




Non Mummy Me VS Mummy Me

Oh how my life has changed since having Kiddies. So much has changed! Where to even begin.

Before kiddies;

  • I could sleep in on a weekend until whatever time I liked, sometimes I could sleep in until well after 1pm. I could go to bed when ever I liked without worrying about being woken in the night.
  • Shopping was an enjoyable pleasure. I could shop for hours, go for coffee and all I had to carry was my handbag and shop for ME.
  • Oh, handbags, I remember those. I used to have a collection of at least 10. I had more handbags than shoes.
  • Yes, shoes. They had height, nice pretty unpractical shoes. Shoes I wore because they looked nice, not for the comfort.
  • Dinning out, whenever I wanted. eating in peace and while it’s still hot! The things I used to take for granted!
  • Going out with friends and making plans last-minute. There’s nothing like phoning a friend and saying I’m bored, let’s go out!! ah, to be spontaneous!
  • Clothes, worn to look pretty and nice, oh the days of wearing white and the days of wearing expensive clothes.
  • Makeup…yes, I used to wear makeup everyday. And brush my hair every day! I used to even take the time to straighten my hair! Wow, go me!
  • Drinking, oh to be able to drink without much thought knowing you would wake up eat greasy food and slouch around the following day nursing your sore head. This happend Atleast 3x a week.

After kiddies;

  • My day starts by 6am at the latest, 7am is considered a sleep in! The last time I had a full nights sleep without being woken in the night….before kiddies!
  • Shopping is now something I avoid at all costs, there’s now 2 kids to wrangle with…getting in and out of the car, the pram, the nappie bag, the tantrums. and can only go into shops that can fit a buggie and contain no breakables! Forget trying on clothes, its impossible! Clothes shopping for kiddies clothes is now my guilty pleasure, I could spend every last cent on my boys! My groceries shopping is done online, going into coles or woolies is a nightmare with Timmy. He wants everything he see’s and inevitably ends in a tantrum!
  • Handbags, only reserved for when I get a rare occasion to go out on my own. And my collection is now 3 bags, not the 10+ I used to have! Otherwise i’m sporting an oh so trendy mum nappy bag! All the way from Hawaii.
  • Shoes are now trainers, flat shoes and Thongs( flipflops). long gone are heels and wearing shoes just because they look nice!
  • Dining out….haha. There’s no such thing anymore! If anything its a cheeky Thai or pizza takeaway after the kids are in bed. A rare luxury these days.
  • oh making plans, you better check with me a good week in advance, that’s considered spontaneous!
  • Clothes, these days its breast-feeding maternity tops and leggings….yup, that’s my wardrobe! and I only buy cheap clothes, there only going to get vomited on, pissed on or marked and stained by sticky dirty Timmy hands. When at home, my dressing gown is my staple item.
  • Makeup, ha, you would be lucky if most days I brush my teeth and get a comb through my hair. Super Sexy these days, I know!
  • Hangovers….a thing of the past. It is not worth it while needing to look after kiddies. that’s pure torture! While most days I really could do with a drink or 10, breastfeeding still stops me. I think I have had a total of 3 drinks since giving birth to Elijah. That’s it!

XX Life In A Mum Shell XX


Living in Oz – 8 month update!

It has been 5 month’s since my last update on how we are all settling into OZ. So it’s about time I filled you all in as I get asked all the time how we are going over here, and a lot has changed since my last update living in oz, 3 month update so read on to find out.

So as soon as Carl was not on his Tourist Visa and got put on his Bridging visa, he started looking for work. He spoke with a few recruitment agencies and had a couple of job interviews before finally landing a job. When he started looking for work, we had 2 options. He could find work in the city, which meant a move closer that way and the travel by train every day, or we could look down south and try find a place to live down there. He found a job down south he liked with decent pay where he could support us all while I’m off work with the children and with decent hours so we would be seeing more of him. So south it was, he accepted the job and it was time for us to find a house to move into. We looked close to where he was working, but they were great let downs, you could not have paid me to live in any of them. Plus there was not a great selection or options available. So we decided to look around the area my family live in, it would mean a 45 minute commute to work for Carl every day though. We looked at a few houses, but none me and Carl could agree on, until the real estate agent convinced us to look at one property, which was a good $50PW over our budget.  We are glad he did, as it was perfect. Carl was sold before he even walked in the door! We agree’d that although our budget would be tight, we would make it work! We applied, and we got the house. Next, I needed to stop my temping work, which by this stage I was becoming very heavily pregnant and I was missing being home with my son so I handed in my notice. I would need to drive Carl to work every day, (45 min there, 45 min back). He had just gone for his learners licence which he passed, but he needs to drive with a full licenced driver in the car at all times. He has gone for some lessons, and hopefully will soon go for his test to get his green p’s so I do not have to take him to work every day.

So I stopped working, Carl started work and we moved into our new house. After we moved in there were a few teething issues with the house, which the first month or two were spent with different contractors coming and going to fix these issues, but all has settled down now, and we are settling in properly. I spent my days going to and from various doctors and specialists appointments. I had gestational diabetes which I struggled to control and was put on insulin, so this meant lots of appointments every week and all in Campbelltown. A fair drive from where we live. Timmy was in school 2 days a week, these were ‘my day’s off’. Then comes march, and little Elijah joins us. Read about his birth story here: Laboring Eli . If I thought life was hard with one, I was in for a shock when baby came along. I could handle the Baby who sleeps lots, feeds well and rarely cries. What I was not prepared for was Timmy’s stage he would soon start of back chatting and finding naughty ways of seeking extra attention. He has moments when he is just so beautiful, sweet and caring but then days when I want to hide in the cupboard with a bottle of wine and wait until its all over. Since the wine and cupboard are not an option, it’s lot’s of yelling, naughty corners and being put in his bedroom. Needless to say, days when he is at school are my favorite days of the week!! But recently I have started doing a “Me and Timmy day” when Carl is off I leave baby with him and I take Timmy out and we go to cafe’s, the park, reading time at the library. Basically anywhere. Its really nice to just have a bit of us Time again. He tends to behave really well on these outings.

When we first moved from England to Australia, we started potty training Timmy. It took a few months for him to start going by himself, but he did eventually. While we were living with family, he wasn’t interested much in potty training. We tried the stickers when he would wee and poo, we tried the kiddie seat on the toilet, we tried an actual potty, we even resorted to bribing with treats, bad I know! but a lot of the time he would not do it. It was when he started school, he started to want to do it by himself. I guess he saw other children using the toilet and was keen to copy them. Now he goes by himself and only needs help when he does a poo, we need to wipe his bum. Accidents are rare these days, and I find when he does an accident, its not an accident, its on purpose to get some attention.

So we are all adjusting to being a family of 4, Carl is really happy in his job and I have just enrolled myself to study a Diploma of Early Learning Childcare and Education. I was very undecided about what I wanted to do after having Timmy, but what sealed the deal was doing the temping reception/ admin work when I first got to OZ and I decided that was just too boring and mind numbing work. It was OK for a week or 2, but after that I hated it. So childcare is def where I want to start working when I enter the work force again. But for right now, I’m content with my newest little man, and my eldest little terror. They are challenging enough.

I have had a few social outings where I have met up with some friends, had some play dates with all their kiddies which has been really nice and refreshing. We have had a few family days out, to the Blue Mountains, Botanic Gardens and to Featherdale Wild Life Park. I visit the family once or twice a week to say hi and catch up, or just to annoy them. In a couple of weeks it is Timmy’s Birthday, so I am currently starting to plan his birthday party. He is into Thomas, and more currently Spider Man! So he wants a Spider Man cake and jumping Castle, but he wants Thomas decorations. I have asked a good friend to make Timmy’s spider-man cake. Timmy is very excited about his party. I took him shopping to help choose his decorations. I could not get a spider-man jumping castle, as it was too big for the yard, so we had to settle on a smaller cars themed one. That’s fine, does the same job!! I will be sure to write a post all about his party at a later stage. It is my first time organising a party! His first birthday was in Reading, England. I didn’t do a party, just met some mum friends in the park and had a picnic, and also Carl had a work function on his birthday, so we went to that! Then his second birthday we were on Sark again, he had a birthday party which I held at his preschool. I just had to send out some invites and arrange food, they set everything up and hosted it which was great! So this year will be my first time properly organizing and hosting a birthday party!

Timmy started swimming lessons last week, I was so proud of him. He got straight in and was absolutely loving it! I ran into a friend there also, who takes her little one for swimming lessons on the same day. So that that will be good to see her there next time. I have also plucked up the courage to try out a new playgroup. I have been twice now, Timmy really enjoys it, it’s not busy and its nice to have a girly mum chat about everything once a week. So now my days are pretty full all week now with lots of activities. I am finally finding a bit of a routine to my weeks, It is really nice.

So I think this is us all updated for now.

XX Life In A Mum Shell XX