My Past Week #2

 

So here’s to another week gone by, this is what I got up to last week!

Monday – Was a really nice day, did some washing in the morning, Timmy is in school, Carl is at work. My dad came by and we went out to lunch at a local pub. I had an AMAZING salad. I even treated myself to a little glass of wine. In the middle of the day!. why not? It was nice, me and dad got to catch up and chat away, we didn’t even realise we had been there for over 3 hours! It was close to 4pm by the time we left.

Tuesday – Timmy wanted a chill out day, so that’s what we did. Nothing exciting, just pottered around the house doing general house stuff. Timmy watched a bunch of TV and played games on my phone, this is now his new thing playing games on our phones. We went for our usual afternoon walk around the block. It only takes 20 minutes but it’s nice to get out of the house on day’s like this!

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On our daily afternoon walk

 

Wednesday – Carls day off. Was a busy one for me, I needed to go to the library and get some study done so I did that in the morning while Carl looked after the kiddies for a couple of hours. Came home and Timmy helped me wash the car, it wasn’t until the next day I realised what a bad job we had done… so will need doing again very soon! I rode my exercise bike, not for very long with Timmy around, but still managed to get some exercise done. Did another walk around the block with the kiddies while Carl went for his driving lesson. He booked his driving test for next week! Fingers crossed he passes, I can not wait for him to get his licence.

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Studying at the library.

 

Thursday – Carl had appointments in Wollongong to get done for his visa, so we went there for the day. Before his appointments we went for lunch by the water at Bombora Seafood Restaurant. As I wasn’t allowed to wait for him in the waiting room, I waited in a nearby café and fed Timmy chocolates to keep him occupied while I had a coffee.

 

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Lunch at Bombora in Wollongong

 

Friday – Timmy is in school, It was time for Elijah to get his 4month immunisation needles, so I had him booked in, I had myself also booked in for an appointment and my sister needed to see a doctor also. So was a long morning spent at the doctors. I worked on my blog post, got a post sent out about the Parental Stress Centre. And spent a lot of time online doing research, and studies stuff. I am currently studying a diploma in Childcare. Picked up Timmy from school and went around my dad’s house for a quick visit. Elijah is grumpy and not happy since getting his immunisations earlier, So not the most exciting Friday!

Saturday – Dropped kiddies off round Grandma’s for an hour or so while I went and got waxed. I had not had this done since before Elijah was born, so I was well over due! I will NOT be going back to ‘ Perfection nail & beauty clinic’ in Tahmoor. I have been there 2x before and they were OK, nothing special. However this time was different. Besides no one else being in their, I was made to wait 40 minutes before being shown a room, then made to wait another 10 minutes in the room! Then the lady waxed off half of my eyebrow. Seriously!. I now need to cover up with an eye pencil. They tried to tell me it was like that before I went in there! I think I would realise if I was missing half an eye brow. Then went home and Spent the rest of the day at home again, doing house work and playing with the kids. Timmy is getting really good these days at driving his truck around the backyard, he can now steer properly and goes really fast, little hoon!! It is super cute watching him.

Sunday – Its my 34th birthday! I woke up to Timmy opening my presents for me. I got some beautiful flowers from Carl and the kids and a couple of books, which I am looking forward to reading. I then went to lunch with the family at a local club. Was a nice day. Went back to my dad’s house where they did a cake and sang the worst rendition of “happy birthday” I have ever heard! Very funny! Then at night Carl came home at a decent time and we had pizza and a glass of bubbles. So a good finish to the day!

So That sums up my week. Did any of you get up to anything exciting?

XX Life In A Mum Shell XX

The Parental Stress Centre

So those of you that follow me on my Social media accounts such as my Facebook Page will know that 2 weeks ago I had a Mummy Meltdown. Let me give you the back story so you will understand how I  got to that point.

I gave birth to Elijah back in March and since bringing him home I have been feeling very anxious, stressed, overwhelmed and feeling I am not coping on a day to day basis. Elijah is now 3 1/2 months old. Before I had Elijah I was a lot more in control, and I felt like I could handle Timmy most of the time. There were rare occasions where I would have a bad day, but these were far and few between! I guess the timing of Timmy turning 3 just after giving birth to Elijah hasn’t helped. He has turned into a little Threenanger. This is a serious thing, forget terrible two’s they were a breeze, but once they hit 3, WOW! So trying to cope with his outbursts and tantrums while managing a new born baby has not been easy to say the least. Every day I suffer from major mummy guilt over trying to give Timmy the attention he needs and trying to breast feed Elijah and change a thousand nappies a day. I forgot how much stuff comes out of such a little human being! Every day for the past 3 1/2 months I have been feeling guilt ridden, felt like I am not coping, feel like I should be able to do all the washing, keep a clean house, give enough attention to both children, cook dinner, and make them healthy and something every one would like. I would be lucky if I got through a load or two of washing, and that doesn’t include putting it away! No one else was putting this pressure on me, but me! I feel like every day I should be an octopus with 8 arms. My expectations are way too high, on myself and on Timmy. He is 3. Yes, he is naughty, cheeky and testing. I feel I should be able to handle this, and honestly I have not been able to. Every night when I put him to bed, I promise tomorrow will be better and I will be a better mum who doesn’t loose her temper and who is more patient and understanding, but then the next day is just as it was the day before. The stress had just got too much and I am fearful it is turning into depression, if it has not already. I feel like I have no control and it does not help when well meaning family tell me i’m not doing things right, or I should be doing more of this or that. I don’t think social media has helped much either, with people only posting the most amazing pictures and stories of clean houses, kids playing incredibly well, outings where kids behave, home cooked meals from scratch. That is why for me, posting as honestly as I can about my struggles and my reality is important. Whether it be on my blog, instagram, fb or twitter. You will always see pictures of a messy house, my imperfect arts and crafts or cooking attempts and basically the reality which is life. Of course there are days which do go wonderful, and I go to bed feeling like the best mum in the world, however of late these are less and less. which seems to be my problem

Enter the Parental Stress Centre. In the midst of my mummy meltdown, telling my 3 year old son I couldn’t take anymore, I didn’t want to be a mummy anymore and I was going to go to work instead, an ad popped up on my facebook feed. The weirdest thing is, I never looked them up, I was not seeking outside help, it just randomly popped up on my face book computer screen at what could only be described as the exact moment I needed it to. I am the biggest skeptic out there, and I never click on these facebook ADS, but curiosity got me and I was at my wits ends so I clicked on the AD, what did I have to loose?. It was the best decision I made! Reading about there programs, how they can help, what they offer….I thought perhaps this might just be what I need. So I registered! I signed up for their 28 day program, find my calm challenge. We are currently on day 11, and I can honestly say this is EXACTLY what I needed! I love the live Q&A once a week with Jackie Hall. She explains everything so well, clearly and everything makes sense and i’m always left wondering why I did not know this before, or how did I not see this or understand this earlier?

Every day they send you an email in the morning, which comes with an audio version also. I prefer to listen to the Audio version then reading, I find I absorb what is being said better and each day it will cover a new topic such as ‘Understanding your Toddler’. I love waking up to these, especially after a bad night with Elijah being up and attached all night and i wake up feeling tired and irritated before the day has even began. Then at the end of the lesson they give you home work, these are tasks they ask you to do, which you do not send in, there just extra to help in your understanding and to help put the lesson into practice. You can choose to do them or not, they are up to you. I do them when I can. The past few days I have not had a chance. Things have been a little hectic, so ill open the email and listen to the audio version if I’m busy and don’t have time to sit and read, ill put the audio on while washing up or cooking or breast feeding and listen to it that way! Honestly, everything they say makes so much sense, and the hardest part is getting myself to rethink and rearrange my old habits and stop myself conflicting against the reality of what is happening as apposed to my expectations of what should happen. It is so easy to get myself stressed and worked up. But then I just need to stop, think about what I have been told, how to handle it and try the best I can in the current situation. This is easier said then done, some days I can handle, others get the better of me, and I just give up! I am working on it.

They have a closed face book group which I LOVE because every single other person on there you can relate to! They are all strangers, and you can post your problems and they all post with advice or there personal story. It is such a relief and just feels really nice knowing your not the only one who struggles as a parent. Obviously you already know you are not the only person which struggles as a parent, however some days can feel isolating, even if you have close friends, family and your partner/husband/wife ect around you, you can still manage to feel very alone with your problems.

I have had friends and family message me offering me advice and reassuring me I am doing a great job and I am not alone in how I am feeling, they assure me “we have all been there”. I truly appreciate these messages of support. Carl has been great, booking me a night away so I could take some time off. Much needed. I think Carl puts up with a lot, most night he comes home after working all day to a messy house, no dinner cooked and Timmy still awake as he refuses to go to bed for me! But when he walks through those doors, it is like a wave of relief, I have help, I have a team member who can step in so I can breathe. I feel happy, relieved and guilty all at the same time. I think I have let the stress and pressure every day get to me for too long and it is now weighing too heavy so this is why I decided to sign up to this program. Honestly, if there are any parents out there struggling and you feel you need help, you must look them up! They offer other programs besides the one I am doing. Its only day 11, and I have a long way to go, the program I am on is 28 days, but what I have learnt so far has been eye opening. I am really happy I chose to click on that AD when I did. I have a lot of self work to do, but I am looking forward to it and hopefully I will improve my every day outlook on life! I will be sure to keep you updated on my progress and let you know my final thoughts at the end of the program.

If you feel you need extra help or are feeling stressed or struggling to cope, please look them up!or click this link to be directed straight to their website  parentalstress.com.au I highly recommend them!

XX Candice XX

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My Past week

So here I am about to write a weekly post about my comings and goings during the week. I often read other people’s post about what they got up to throughout the week and I love reading them. So this inspired me to write my own. I hope to get this out weekly and would love to hear your thoughts and comments! here’s my first post!

So as it is Sunday now, I will start my week from Sunday. Basically, Sunday set the tone for the rest of my week anyway, so it really is the best place to start my week!

Sunday – I had a bright idea to take my 3 year old son and 3 month old baby to the movies to watch cars 3 on my own! In  the school holidays! Now, I know what your thinking, I must be crazy. Yes, yes I am! Had I of had seen 3 hours into the future, I can tell you I would not have even attempted this! But, as I did I need to tell you my story!

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A rare glimpse of him sitting in his chair! 

So we get to the movies, I’m lining to to buy a ticket when a lady taps me on the shoulder to inform me my baby has just vomited all over my shoulder and down my back! GREAT! I get the tickets then line up for food, I get some pop corn, a packet of M&M’s and a lollipop for Timmy. It is all going smoothly, he is listening to my instructions and i’m feeling hopeful and proud i’m attempting this adventure. We sit down in the middle of an isle, I sort him out with food and a drink and he is sitting happily eating away.  baby has been fed and is sleeping in my arms. It is busy, and we get blocked in either end by people. The movie starts, all is good for about 20 minutes before the M&M’s run out, he is out of his seat trying to grab the girls next to his food and drink, annoying the lady in front who kept giving me death stares. This went on for 45 minutes before I got up and left, followed by Timmy screaming at the top of his lungs, we were in the foyer of the movies and people everywhere when Timmy decided to sit on the floor arms and legs going full on screaming because we were leaving! It took me 20 minutes to get him in the car, lucky me had 2 men sitting in the car next to us watching the whole episode. I got home, fed baby decided to get fresh air we would go for a walk. Was really nice, came home and it was one thing after another again, screaming, constant telling me no, the back chatting on and on until I broke down in tears in front of my son and told him I did not want to be a mummy anymore and I was going to work as I cant deal with him! In the midst of this breakdown, up popped an ad on my FB news feed about the Parental Stress Center. I normally ignore these, but my gut instinct told me I needed outside help, and I clicked. I joined and have never looked back. I will do a post all about this very soon! But was absolutely the right decision to join. Carl got home to find me a crying mess and started picking up the peaces. We decided it was a good idea for me to take a break so we booked me a hotel down the south coast for a night on Wednesday where I could order room service, have a bath and just chill out. So looking forward to that, obviously I would still have Elijah as he is still being breast fed!

Monday – Timmy is in school and Carl is at work, after dropping both off, I got myself a coffee at Mac cafe, went home and decided I was going to chill out in bed all day, work on my blogs, do some more study, perhaps even get a bit of reading done myself! I made a cup of tea, chucked on a load of laundry then and set up in bed with Elijah. Not even 30 minutes later the phone rings, it is Timmy’s school, could I come collect him as he has a red cheek and they suspect it may be the viral infection slap cheek! FUCKING GREAT!! There goes my day, and nothing yet accomplished! Spent the afternoon at the doctors and was told it was not slap cheek, he may just be getting a cold and yes he did come down with a cold on Wednesday! JOY!

Tuesday – I took the opportunity to get out of the house, as the school holidays are on and there is no swimming lessons today a couple of friends suggested a meet up! Great idea, much needed. Let the kids play(or fight!) and the mums can chat over coffee. Just what I needed! Timmy loves going around our friend Annie’s house, lots of toys, plenty of room to run and play, plus she has swings and slides! It’s like going to a park and a friends house rolled into one 🙂 win win!

Wednesday – So Carl is off and its my day to head down the coast for a day/night away. I felt guilty as Timmy woke up not well, but Carl convinced me to still go. I cried for a good 40 minutes in the car, a mixture of feelings going on! Mum Guilt over everything basically. I’m really hard on myself, I tell myself I should be able to look after the kids, keep a clean house, have all meals freshly prepared and keep it all together! I understand this is not realistic, and I’m yet to meet a mum who can do all this. I am working on this daily through the Parental Stress Center. So I drive down to Gerringong and stay at the Mecure Hotel. I end up with an upgrade and love my room. I usually stay in Mecure Hotel’s where ever I go, I have always had such a great experience with them, this time was no different! So, I check in, then drive to the main part of Gerringong, go for lunch, do some shopping then head back to the hotel and basically chilled! Got some snacks, veged out, watched TV and just tried to switch off as much as possible.

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Chilling in our hotel on the private balcony. Relaxing!

I ordered room service and had a nice bubble bath. I had Elijah with me so I wasn’t totally of duty, but I didn’t have the constant…”Mummy, Mummy, Mummy!” which some days that’s enough to drive me crazy alone! So all in all a lovely night away, and I felt it was much earned and needed!

Thursday – Carl took Timmy to Sydney to the Aquarium and to meet up with a couple of his friends. So I woke up, had breakfast at the hotel and as Carl and Timmy were not home I had plenty of time to kill and not rush back home. I checked out of the hotel, went for a coffee, I found an amazing little cafe, the staff were incredibly nice and personable and the views were amazing!

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The view at the Sea Vista Cafe in Gerringong.

I did a little more shopping, spent far too much money so now ive replaced Mummy guilt with Money guilt…great!!

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The book I came across in a Gerringong store by a local Author, very fitting for my current situation.

After some lunch I headed back home and lucky me came home to a nice clean house thank you Carl!!

Friday – Timmy was in school, Carl at work. I headed into Campbelltown with my younger sister to take her to an appointment, and me to do some shopping. Once again, spending too much money. After, my sister shouted me lunch at a restaurant called Grilled…its in Macarthure Square, for all my local friends who are reading this, if you have not been there before, please do, its amazing. I had the Baa-Baa burger. Seriously yummy! Not too expensive either. Healthy options and healthy buns ect. Def worth it after a hard days shopping 🙂

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A Grilled Lamb Baa-Baa burger. Seriously yummy!

Saturday – Went groceries shopping,  had a coffee, went to the local markets which is great. Did washing, just an average day really!

Sunday – More washing ect, just a day at home. Chill out day. Nothing much to report. Was a difficult day with Timmy again, He made ALOT of mess and refused to clean it up. We butted heads for about 3 hours….it was stressful and awful! He was being really naughty saying some awful things such as “mummy cant do anything right!” and also “i want you dead, boom your killed!” was just awful. I honestly have not come across this behavior from him before and I was in shock and really upset! But when i told him what he said was not very nice and hurt mummy’s heart, he turned into the sweet caring boy i know and said ” I will go get you a heart and make it all better and make you happy again” followed by a big cuddle and kiss. How can you be upset after that?! As Carl tried to tell me, he is a parrot and repeats anything he will hear….I do understand this but it is still hard to hear and hard not to take personal! I’m working on this!

Ok, so this post is going out a little late, sorry! I started it Sunday, it is now Tuesday. Days just dissapear when you have children! before I know it I will be writing this weeks post! well I hope you all had a smoother week then me!

XX Life In A Mum Shell XX

Body Confidence And Being A Warrior Woman — Not Another Mummy Blog

I Think we can all relate. I give full credit to her for posting pictures and sharing her story with us all. As I am about to start my journey into health and fitness after kids, this has given me inspiration! Please share, or comment your thoughts! I love seeing posts like these.

I’ve been on a bit of a journey with my body confidence of late (yes, a journey! Like an X Factor contestant!). For the past few years, I’ve been pretty… The post Body Confidence And Being A Warrior Woman appeared first on Not Another Mummy Blog.

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The Gruffalo

My Son’s Favorite book at the moment is The Gruffalo. I must say I really enjoy reading this book. The first time I had ever heard of the Gruffalo was in 2014, after I had Timmy. I went to a soft play with My partners mother, and on the wall was painted a huge picture of this ugly cartoon character. I asked, “What is that?“. She looked at me shocked, how had I never heard of The Gruffalo? Well, I soon learnt very quickly what it is. I absolutely love it! That year I got to watch the cartoon as it was on Christmas day, which It reads just like the book. It is the cutest cartoon, and very very clever!

If you have never heard of The Gruffalo, you need to read the book and or watch the cartoon! The book is about a little mouse who walks through the deep dark woods, he comes across various animals who wish to eat him but he manages to get out of each situation by saying he is meeting a “Gruffalo”. He describes a bit of the Gruffalo, Such as  he has Terrible Claws and terrible teeth in his terrible jaws and then mentions what The Gruffalo’s favorite food is, such as when he comes across a snake, he says the Gruffalo’s favorite food is scrambled snake. The snake gets scared and scampers off. The mouse says, “Silly snake doesn’t he know there’s no such thing as a Gruffalo!” This continues until he comes across The Gruffalo, with all the exact same features as what he describes through the book. The Gruffalo wants to eat the mouse, but the mouse convinces him hes the scariest mouse in the woods. So they walk through the woods and come across all the creatures again, each one see’s the Gruffalo and scuttles off, the Gruffalo is convinced they are scared of the mouse, so the mouse says he is hungry and his favorite food is Gruffalo crumble, at which scares the Gruffalo and he scampers off leaving the mouse to enjoy a nut in peace. The book is very easy reading, and Timmy loves finishing my sentences while we are reading.

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we love the The Gruffalos Child also!

We also have the follow up book “The Gruffalo’s Child” which is just as delightful and easy reading as The Gruffalo. There is a cartoon version of the book also which is another joy to watch.  This version tells of the Gruffalo’s child who should not go into the deep dark woods as if he does the big bad mouse will be after you. The child does not listen, is brave and ventures out into the woods. He comes across all the same lovely characters as in The Gruffalo. Each character says the mouse is close by eating Gruffalo cake ect… until finally he comes across the mouse who doesn’t seem scary at all and thinks he would like to eat him, until the mouse tells him he has a friend who he needs to meet and describes him in a scary way, then moves into the moonlight where a big silhouette shadow of the mouse comes across the snowy floor and scares the Gruffalo’s child back home. Seriously, how could you not love these books?

If you have read these books, what are your thoughts on them. Please share them with me and I would love to know what books are currently your and your child’s favorites!

xx Life In A Mum Shell xx

Self Love Is Not Selfish!

I am currently just realizing I need more me time and that I am not wonder woman who can do it all. I recently had a meltdown from exhaustion and stress and am now trying to get myself out of this hole and back to me. Being a mum is hard, but I love my kiddies so much and wouldn’t change being a mum for the world. I just need to now focus a bit more on me so when it all gets too hard I don’t let it get on top of me again. This post is incredible and it’s exactly where I am currently at.

Mum from the Heart

As Mums we so often hold the weight of the world on our shoulders. We put the needs of our family first. We become Mum, then wife and often feel like we loose ourselves along the way. We try to be the Perfect Mum, raising perfect kids and keeping our house perfect at the same time. All the while we loose site of the most important thing. US. We need to love ourselves, we need to make ourselves a priority too. There is nothing selfish about this act. Not only is self love important it is imperative to be the best version of ourselves. How can being the best version of ourselves be selfish? If we cannot love ourselves, cannot make our own needs a priority, if we give and give and never refuel, we lead ourselves into resentment, anxiety, depression and a everything in between.

It is not Selfish to Love yourself

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Q&A with Timmy

So I have seen A lot of these types of things on Facebook and other peoples blogs where they ask there children at random some questions and see what the answers are. I decided today I would do this with Timmy who will be 3 next week. I’m actually surprised by some of his answers.

This is what happend.

  1. What makes mummy happy – Me helping you
  2. What makes daddy happy – Me helping him
  3. What is your favorite color – Purple
  4. Whats your favorite food – Sausages
  5. Whats your favorite fruit – Oranges
  6. What do you like to watch on TV – The show me and you watched, Tinkerbell
  7. What games do you like to play – The game on your phone
  8. What is your favorite animal – Horse and a cow
  9. What makes mummy sad – Not helping her
  10. How old is mummy – 7
  11. How old are you – 7
  12. What is mummy’s favorite food – coke (laughs!)
  13. What is mummy good at – helping me tidy the house
  14. What is mummy’s job – helping me
  15. What do we do together – chill out
  16. What do you sleep with – bison
  17. What do you like to do outside – play with my play-dough, do some drawing and painting and stick stickers everywhere!
  18. What do you like to eat for lunch – sandwiches
  19. What do you like to eat at granddad and grandma’s house – icelollies
  20. What does daddy like to drink – beer
  21. What does mummy like to drink – coke 
  22. What is your favorite drink –  poppas

So this was a little bit of fun today. Have you tried this with your children? If so I would love to know what were some of the funniest, strangest or most surprising answers you got?

XX Life In A Mum Shell XX