For well over a month I would catch Timmy singing little bits of Christmas songs. I would ask him about them and he wouldn’t tell me. I asked his teacher, she said they had started practicing for there Christmas concert. This brought me huge excitement! His first ever Christmas concert. What parent does not like seeing there kid in a concert? So yes, I was very excited indeed!
As the concert got closer, he started singing more and more. But if he saw me watching or knew I was listening he would stop. I asked him why, he said “it’s a surprise mummy!” A letter went out to all parents detailing the day, we were asked to bring a plate of food and to also bring a gift that Santa would give to your child. I could not wait for the day to come.
Finally it was concert day, Timmy was beside himself with excitement, I was equally excited. We get there 10 minutes before it is due to start and the room is packed. I have to stand up the back behind alot of tall people and can barely see him. Luckily Carl is with me, he can see Timmy (carl is rather tall) and manages to get some photos and film a video or two of him! I couldn’t have been more proud. My little man was up there having a ball, he knew all the words and actions. I honestly nearly cried at the sight of him, seriously proud mummy moment!
At the end, Santa comes in and all the kids get called one by one and get their present and photo with Santa. Luckily Timmy loved his present, a cash register. He is right into playing shops and that sort of thing these days so it was the perfect present.
Honestly, this time of year makes me reflect on the past year and how far Timmy has come. How grown up he is becoming now. They honestly grow up too fast. I think back to when he was just my baby, he will be 4 this coming year….bloody 4!!! Where has the past 4 years gone?!! I am so proud of the little man he is growing into.
On his last day at school before the holidays, his school sent home his portfolio for the year. It had pictures, photos, paintings ect that he had done through the year. I was looking through it, so proud and secretly cried. I don’t know what it is, but once I popped out my first child I cry over everything and anything, the littlest thing will set me off. So it was no surprise that when I opened his Christmas present from school, it was a dvd they had made of photos through the year, I sat there Christmas morning, tears streaming down my face, happy tears of course! I love those sorts of things, but I hate how I cry. Its literally uncontrollable.
I know this post is slightly late, I had originally wanted it out before new years, that just did not happen! Sorry! It is actually one of my new years resolutions, be more efficient with my blogging. Lets see how I go.
I can not believe it has been over a year now since we moved from the UK to Australia. We moved in October 2016. So much has happened in this past year, its been slightly crazy. It only seemed like yesterday my partner came home to tell me he quite his job and wanted to move to Australia.
So, where do we begin, well you can read all about my first 3 months in Australia here living in oz, 3 month update But since then, as soon as Carl’s bridging visa came through he got a job, I then stopped working to take care of Timmy again. Plus I was heavily pregnant and was ready to put the brakes on! We got ourselves a rental house which was basically empty when we first moved in with the odd bit of second hand furniture courtesy of my family. When we moved over here, we came with nothing. Literally a couple of suitcases and that was it. Our house honestly looked like a second hand furniture shop full of mix matched items, nothing went together and we did not even have a dining room table, no blinds or curtains on the windows. It took a little while before our house started coming together. But we were just so happy to be out of our family’s house as it was more then cramped with so many adults and a child under one roof! On our first night we were greeted with a lovely huge Hunstman spider running across the floor, me screaming and jumping on the sofa for carl to kill it. Welcome to Australia. Then only a couple of days later I had a redback spider crawl right next to my leg on the sofa. I was not impressed! I hate spiders with a passion, no matter if they are big or small, they need to go, there is no room in my life for them!
For a while I needed to drive Carl to work every day as we only had the one car which is lent to us from my family, but with the help of my lovely cousin and her hubby we were able to get a second car. Carl got his driving licence and he started to drive himself to and from work. This made life for me so much easier. We love our second car, it is truly a great car. Except for the first week or so, I thought there was something wrong, as when I was diving it, it would not change gear ( it is automatic!) I thought we had brought a lemon. Hmm, nope turns out it was my stupidness and I was driving it in the manual setting. How stupid can I be? I don’t think I will ever live it down. I will be hearing about that for the rest of my days if Carl has anything to do with it. So yes, Carl quickly got settled into his new job, I enrolled Timmy into swimming lessons, which did not last long because when he realised he would have to go under the water at the end of each lesson and that was that. The fight to get him to go every week was not worth it! I found a play group with lots of lovely ladies and even had a night out to dinner with them. I have not been in a while now as on that day Timmy is in school now and I have been very busy. But now Elijah is older, hopefully I can get back into going again! Timmy is in preschool which he loves! He goes to school 3x a week, I call these days my days off, even though I still have Elijah to look after. I gave birth to Elijah back in March, went through a few months of hard times with some postnatal depression. Honestly, I started getting better, then just a few weeks ago I felt waves of it coming back. I ran into a lady and she asked me how I was doing, I burst into tears which I was not expecting! but yes, I suspect it is still with me but i’m aware of it. I think I am going to start to revisit The Parental Stress Centre you can see my post about them here The Parental Stress Centre honestly, the programme I did with them was exactly what I needed. If there is anyone reading this that struggles day to day, it does not have to be PND but in general. You find being a parent hard, stressful, have anxiety or are even just struggling please look them up they offer different course options, and are seriously affordable. They did me wonders, and ill keep using them to keep me in check and get me back on track when I fall off.
I finished my childcare course from overseas which I started before I knew we were leaving the UK. I have since enrolled into a diploma of childcare via online here in Australia which I am enjoying, but really need to make a more regular pattern of studying! It took me a long time after having my kiddies to decide when I go back to work what I wanted to do. I have now decided for sure child care is what I want to do, so while I am a stay at home mum it is the perfect time for me to get my qualification!
Carl got approved for his temporary Australian Visa, then the company we went through fast tracked our application for a permanent visa, which was instantly approved. Normally you need to wait for 3 years I think before you can apply for the Permanent, but as we had extensive proof we had lived together, and the fact we have 2 children together helped in our favor!
We managed to get a couple of holidays in, we went last year to visit Granny in Grafton with my cousin. We went again this year after I had Elijah to visit her, but this time we turned it into a real family holiday and went to Queensland for 4 days and did the theme parks. Which you can read about here Our Family Trip to Queensland
We have also had a few weeks here and there where we have managed to go down the coast for a couple of days. We enjoy going down south, it is so beautiful. Every time we go down we manage to find something new to do or a new place to visit. Our most favorite place to go lately is Jarvis bay. It is so spectacular. It is well known for its white sand. Honestly breathtaking!
We had Carl’s parents come to visit us last for 3 weeks. That was super lovely. They got to see a fair bit and spend a lot of time with Timmy, which I know he loved so much as did they. It went so fast.
So, as you can see it has been a fairly busy 2017 for us! Things have now settled down and we are settling in properly. Christmas 2017 was a really good one. This is the first year we have had our own Christmas tree. The first year, we were on Sark, it was a borrowed tree. The second year we were in Australia visiting family, the third year we were in Bristol for Christmas, that was a tough time personally for me and Carl finding out we had a molar pregnancy and the operation right before Christmas. Miscarriages and Molar pregnancies But we did not bother doing a tree that year as we were going to be in Bristol and that Timmy was at that age where he would see lights and just try to pull them down! Then last year we were at my dads house after just moving to Australia. So this year, we are in our own home, we spent the morning opening presents in our own house right before we headed out to go to dads house for the day. I really enjoyed the champagne and orange juice for breakfast! However dad and Carl were both sick with this horrible bug that seems to be going around, I had it only a couple of weeks earlier.
So today is the first day of 2018, I am hoping this year will be just as good, just as busy and full of amazing adventures! Today I have started a Detox program which i will write about later, as after Elijah i have basically lived of Chocolate and I’m tired of putting on weight and feeling like crap. New year, new me! So happy New years to you all.
The very lovely Michelle over at mum from the heart has nominated me for the Liebster Award for new bloggers and I must say a very big sorry for taking so long to get around to posting this! But here it is, I am very grateful to have been nominated and to also get the chance to nominate up to 5 other fabulous bloggers!
This is a great way to get to know other bloggers and to put your own blog out there. I have been blogging for just over a year now, and am still learning a whole lot! I am really enjoying blogging, and have really loved getting to meet new bloggers along the way. Blogging has opened up a whole new world, and as mum has been invaluable for me!
So lets get started! The rules are as follows;
Once nominated you need to answer the questions of the blogger who nominated you and then pass the nomination onto 5 other bloggers with less then 200 followers! Pretty easy and simple really and alot of fun!
So a big thankyou for my nomination Mish, here are my answers to your questions!
1. What is your dream holiday destination?
I have always wanted to go to greece. Visit the Greek Islands. They just look so beautiful! I have been to alot of places on my travels. Two of my favourite places I have visited are Ireland and Barcelona. I love different cultures and I have met some really lovely greek people and visiting there is on my to do list one day, but may have to wait untill my two boys are a bit older.
2. What is your go to song to lift your spirits when you are feeling low?
Ah, this is tricky. It really depends on why I am feeling low! I don’t really have a go to song, more of bands or artists i like! But i do love a bit of old school cold chisel, Jimmy Barnes…blame my dad for those influences!! I do love Delta Goodrem,
3. What is your favourite board game?
Oh do I just have to choose one? oh I am a sucker for board games…. I love The Game of Life, Monopoly, guess who. I am super excited my son is reaching the age where he can start playing them with me! I brought him Snakes and ladders, that’s also another good one.
4. What is your inspirational motto?
Once again, it depends on the inspiration I need at the time. But mainly I use simple ones like “you got this!” “you can do this” ” every moment is a fresh beginning”
5. How do you keep a work/blog/life balance
I don’t! haha, its true. As you can see it has taken me months to get around to doing this Liebster Awards post and while i’m typing my 8 month old is in the background crying because I have put him down so i can type it up! Unfortunately since my youngest one has come along, my blog has suffered a lot. I am a stay at home mum, I am studying a diploma in Childcare online and look after 2 little boys! Trying to keep a balance is impossible, it has taken me a while to figure that out. I just take each day as it comes. I’ve put a lot of time into my study’s lately, so today its all about my blog and getting my washing done as Timmy is in preschool and its just me and my youngest today! That’s my balance, not having any balance!
So now it is my turn to nominate some great bloggers and ask some questions. Unfortunately I was not sure who to nominate and requested for people to let me know if they want to take part as I did not want to nominate people and their blogs if they did not want to take part. I only received one Response, so i’m just nominating the one. Thank you for taking part, hope you enjoy this as much as I did! Here goes!
I am extremely lucky with my second son, I was able to breast feed. He was exactly what I had hoped for when it came to breast feeding. He was easy! Unlike my first time with Timmy, which you can ready about Here I was not so lucky! Elijah I could feed straight away. Although those first few days are really really hard. It hurts so bad like someone is slicing your nipples with glass. I was not confident in my ability and kept thinking I was not doing it right. But It turns out I need not have worried because I was doing fine. Once I knew I was doing it right, things went very very smooth and I was very happy breast feeding. I did not like the Let-downs, Especially in the early days, they hurt! The engorged hard boobs you wake up to in the morning, milk everywhere and baby not being able to attached because there so hard and full! But yet, I loved it, because I knew my baby was growing, was happy and healthy all because of me and my boobies.
My son has just turned 8 months, and I have decided to stop with the breast feeding and just continue with formula. I have a few reasons for this. Firstly I feel ready to stop. I am ready to stop wearing maternity bras and I am ready to get my boobs back to being my saggy, not filled with milk hard boobs with the let downs. I have had enough! the second is because Elijah now has started to get teeth. He has bitten me a couple of times, mostly he is good and manages to avoid this, but still when he does bite, it bloody hurts!! And the third, is because I feel elijah is very very attached to me. I have no idea if this is because of the breast feeding, I just feel that by others being able to feed him it lets him bond with his dad and gives me a little space as I do feel Elijah is constantly on me. In the night, when he wakes all he wants is boob, he is not even hungry, its a comfort thing. He falls straight asleep on them. As we speak, he just got put to bed, screamed until I went in their and gave him boob. He is fine now! I have considered giving him a dummy instead, however he has not had one yet, and they are more trouble then there worth sometimes!
I am so proud I managed to breast feed him in the first place. I was so determined to breast feed elijah after my bad experience with Timmy, so being able to is a proud mummy moment! I was not even shy when it came to breast feeding him. If I was out I would find a quiet corner or somewhere not to open and sit there happily breast feeding my baby. It was great not to have to worry about bottles, sterilizing ect I did have a bad public breastfeeding experience with Timmy which you can read here and I was not sure how i would go this time around, but once I knew I was doing it right and I was comfortable, I had no problem feeding him in public. I was always discreet of course, but I was proud and did not care what anyone else thought.
But yes, I feel the time has come to stop breast feeding him. I have not 100% stopped yet, I only breast feed him when he wakes up at 5am and will not go back to sleep without a feed. I put him into bed with me, roll over flop out a boob and he falls asleep on there, as do I! We both get another hours sleep before Timmy comes in and wakes us all up! I feel I have done extremely well in the breast feeding department. I always said I would breast feed until 12 months, because that’s apparently when they recommend you do it until. but I guess when you feel its time to stop, its time!
So there has been a bit of a debate in our house of late. Our Son Timmy has been coming home with Christmas decorations, including reindeer food he made last week at school and it is only Mid November!
I love Christmas, I look forward to December every single year. Yes I look forward to DECEMBER! For me, Christmas starts December 1st. This is when it is acceptable to put up your tree, make your Christmas decorations, and basically get as christmassy as you like! I understand the children start learning their christmas carol songs as their christmas concert is early december, so this is forgiven. But Reindeer food a month and half early before christmas? bit too soon?! like I said, im all for christmas, its my all time favourite time of the year! But even I have to say november is a bit to early to be pulling out the reindeer food!
I would love to hear your thoughts on this subject, do you work in child care or schools and when do you start your christmas theme? When do you put your tree up at home? Personally it all starts december 1st for me but I do know a lot of people who start decorating their houses very early, each too their own! Do you agree with November is too soon or are you all about Christmas as soon as possible?!
So here’s to another week gone by, this is what I got up to last week!
Monday – Was a really nice day, did some washing in the morning, Timmy is in school, Carl is at work. My dad came by and we went out to lunch at a local pub. I had an AMAZING salad. I even treated myself to a little glass of wine. In the middle of the day!. why not? It was nice, me and dad got to catch up and chat away, we didn’t even realise we had been there for over 3 hours! It was close to 4pm by the time we left.
Tuesday – Timmy wanted a chill out day, so that’s what we did. Nothing exciting, just pottered around the house doing general house stuff. Timmy watched a bunch of TV and played games on my phone, this is now his new thing playing games on our phones. We went for our usual afternoon walk around the block. It only takes 20 minutes but it’s nice to get out of the house on day’s like this!
Wednesday – Carls day off. Was a busy one for me, I needed to go to the library and get some study done so I did that in the morning while Carl looked after the kiddies for a couple of hours. Came home and Timmy helped me wash the car, it wasn’t until the next day I realised what a bad job we had done… so will need doing again very soon! I rode my exercise bike, not for very long with Timmy around, but still managed to get some exercise done. Did another walk around the block with the kiddies while Carl went for his driving lesson. He booked his driving test for next week! Fingers crossed he passes, I can not wait for him to get his licence.
Thursday – Carl had appointments in Wollongong to get done for his visa, so we went there for the day. Before his appointments we went for lunch by the water at Bombora Seafood Restaurant. As I wasn’t allowed to wait for him in the waiting room, I waited in a nearby café and fed Timmy chocolates to keep him occupied while I had a coffee.
Friday – Timmy is in school, It was time for Elijah to get his 4month immunisation needles, so I had him booked in, I had myself also booked in for an appointment and my sister needed to see a doctor also. So was a long morning spent at the doctors. I worked on my blog post, got a post sent out about the Parental Stress Centre. And spent a lot of time online doing research, and studies stuff. I am currently studying a diploma in Childcare. Picked up Timmy from school and went around my dad’s house for a quick visit. Elijah is grumpy and not happy since getting his immunisations earlier, So not the most exciting Friday!
Saturday – Dropped kiddies off round Grandma’s for an hour or so while I went and got waxed. I had not had this done since before Elijah was born, so I was well over due! I will NOT be going back to ‘ Perfection nail & beauty clinic’ in Tahmoor. I have been there 2x before and they were OK, nothing special. However this time was different. Besides no one else being in their, I was made to wait 40 minutes before being shown a room, then made to wait another 10 minutes in the room! Then the lady waxed off half of my eyebrow. Seriously!. I now need to cover up with an eye pencil. They tried to tell me it was like that before I went in there! I think I would realise if I was missing half an eye brow. Then went home and Spent the rest of the day at home again, doing house work and playing with the kids. Timmy is getting really good these days at driving his truck around the backyard, he can now steer properly and goes really fast, little hoon!! It is super cute watching him.
Sunday – Its my 34th birthday! I woke up to Timmy opening my presents for me. I got some beautiful flowers from Carl and the kids and a couple of books, which I am looking forward to reading. I then went to lunch with the family at a local club. Was a nice day. Went back to my dad’s house where they did a cake and sang the worst rendition of “happy birthday” I have ever heard! Very funny! Then at night Carl came home at a decent time and we had pizza and a glass of bubbles. So a good finish to the day!
breakfast in bed on my birthday
my beautiful flowers
So That sums up my week. Did any of you get up to anything exciting?
So here I am about to write a weekly post about my comings and goings during the week. I often read other people’s post about what they got up to throughout the week and I love reading them. So this inspired me to write my own. I hope to get this out weekly and would love to hear your thoughts and comments! here’s my first post!
So as it is Sunday now, I will start my week from Sunday. Basically, Sunday set the tone for the rest of my week anyway, so it really is the best place to start my week!
Sunday – I had a bright idea to take my 3 year old son and 3 month old baby to the movies to watch cars 3 on my own! In the school holidays! Now, I know what your thinking, I must be crazy. Yes, yes I am! Had I of had seen 3 hours into the future, I can tell you I would not have even attempted this! But, as I did I need to tell you my story!
So we get to the movies, I’m lining to to buy a ticket when a lady taps me on the shoulder to inform me my baby has just vomited all over my shoulder and down my back! GREAT! I get the tickets then line up for food, I get some pop corn, a packet of M&M’s and a lollipop for Timmy. It is all going smoothly, he is listening to my instructions and i’m feeling hopeful and proud i’m attempting this adventure. We sit down in the middle of an isle, I sort him out with food and a drink and he is sitting happily eating away. baby has been fed and is sleeping in my arms. It is busy, and we get blocked in either end by people. The movie starts, all is good for about 20 minutes before the M&M’s run out, he is out of his seat trying to grab the girls next to his food and drink, annoying the lady in front who kept giving me death stares. This went on for 45 minutes before I got up and left, followed by Timmy screaming at the top of his lungs, we were in the foyer of the movies and people everywhere when Timmy decided to sit on the floor arms and legs going full on screaming because we were leaving! It took me 20 minutes to get him in the car, lucky me had 2 men sitting in the car next to us watching the whole episode. I got home, fed baby decided to get fresh air we would go for a walk. Was really nice, came home and it was one thing after another again, screaming, constant telling me no, the back chatting on and on until I broke down in tears in front of my son and told him I did not want to be a mummy anymore and I was going to work as I cant deal with him! In the midst of this breakdown, up popped an ad on my FB news feed about the Parental Stress Center. I normally ignore these, but my gut instinct told me I needed outside help, and I clicked. I joined and have never looked back. I will do a post all about this very soon! But was absolutely the right decision to join. Carl got home to find me a crying mess and started picking up the peaces. We decided it was a good idea for me to take a break so we booked me a hotel down the south coast for a night on Wednesday where I could order room service, have a bath and just chill out. So looking forward to that, obviously I would still have Elijah as he is still being breast fed!
Monday – Timmy is in school and Carl is at work, after dropping both off, I got myself a coffee at Mac cafe, went home and decided I was going to chill out in bed all day, work on my blogs, do some more study, perhaps even get a bit of reading done myself! I made a cup of tea, chucked on a load of laundry then and set up in bed with Elijah. Not even 30 minutes later the phone rings, it is Timmy’s school, could I come collect him as he has a red cheek and they suspect it may be the viral infection slap cheek! FUCKING GREAT!! There goes my day, and nothing yet accomplished! Spent the afternoon at the doctors and was told it was not slap cheek, he may just be getting a cold and yes he did come down with a cold on Wednesday! JOY!
Tuesday – I took the opportunity to get out of the house, as the school holidays are on and there is no swimming lessons today a couple of friends suggested a meet up! Great idea, much needed. Let the kids play(or fight!) and the mums can chat over coffee. Just what I needed! Timmy loves going around our friend Annie’s house, lots of toys, plenty of room to run and play, plus she has swings and slides! It’s like going to a park and a friends house rolled into one 🙂 win win!
Wednesday – So Carl is off and its my day to head down the coast for a day/night away. I felt guilty as Timmy woke up not well, but Carl convinced me to still go. I cried for a good 40 minutes in the car, a mixture of feelings going on! Mum Guilt over everything basically. I’m really hard on myself, I tell myself I should be able to look after the kids, keep a clean house, have all meals freshly prepared and keep it all together! I understand this is not realistic, and I’m yet to meet a mum who can do all this. I am working on this daily through the Parental Stress Center. So I drive down to Gerringong and stay at the Mecure Hotel. I end up with an upgrade and love my room. I usually stay in Mecure Hotel’s where ever I go, I have always had such a great experience with them, this time was no different! So, I check in, then drive to the main part of Gerringong, go for lunch, do some shopping then head back to the hotel and basically chilled! Got some snacks, veged out, watched TV and just tried to switch off as much as possible.
I ordered room service and had a nice bubble bath. I had Elijah with me so I wasn’t totally of duty, but I didn’t have the constant…”Mummy, Mummy, Mummy!” which some days that’s enough to drive me crazy alone! So all in all a lovely night away, and I felt it was much earned and needed!
Thursday – Carl took Timmy to Sydney to the Aquarium and to meet up with a couple of his friends. So I woke up, had breakfast at the hotel and as Carl and Timmy were not home I had plenty of time to kill and not rush back home. I checked out of the hotel, went for a coffee, I found an amazing little cafe, the staff were incredibly nice and personable and the views were amazing!
I did a little more shopping, spent far too much money so now ive replaced Mummy guilt with Money guilt…great!!
After some lunch I headed back home and lucky me came home to a nice clean house thank you Carl!!
Friday – Timmy was in school, Carl at work. I headed into Campbelltown with my younger sister to take her to an appointment, and me to do some shopping. Once again, spending too much money. After, my sister shouted me lunch at a restaurant called Grilled…its in Macarthure Square, for all my local friends who are reading this, if you have not been there before, please do, its amazing. I had the Baa-Baa burger. Seriously yummy! Not too expensive either. Healthy options and healthy buns ect. Def worth it after a hard days shopping 🙂
Saturday – Went groceries shopping, had a coffee, went to the local markets which is great. Did washing, just an average day really!
Sunday – More washing ect, just a day at home. Chill out day. Nothing much to report. Was a difficult day with Timmy again, He made ALOT of mess and refused to clean it up. We butted heads for about 3 hours….it was stressful and awful! He was being really naughty saying some awful things such as “mummy cant do anything right!” and also “i want you dead, boom your killed!” was just awful. I honestly have not come across this behavior from him before and I was in shock and really upset! But when i told him what he said was not very nice and hurt mummy’s heart, he turned into the sweet caring boy i know and said ” I will go get you a heart and make it all better and make you happy again” followed by a big cuddle and kiss. How can you be upset after that?! As Carl tried to tell me, he is a parrot and repeats anything he will hear….I do understand this but it is still hard to hear and hard not to take personal! I’m working on this!
Ok, so this post is going out a little late, sorry! I started it Sunday, it is now Tuesday. Days just dissapear when you have children! before I know it I will be writing this weeks post! well I hope you all had a smoother week then me!